Wow, it very much depends on where you're writing from. Culture varies greatly, especiallly with regard to marriage and kinship.
2007-03-06 21:56:07
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answered by Jacob S 3
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Young lady, age is just a number. I have met happily married couples who had as much as 25 years of difference in their age. That's both ways, the woman older and the man older by 25 years. I've also met miserable couples who were relatively the same age. It all depends on the attitude of the individuals involved.
Two rules to follow: One: "Follow your bliss" - in other words, do what you think is really going to make you happy Two: "Don't live your life based on someone else's opinion". Your parents cannot make you separate unless you are not of legal age (18 in most states, 21 in others). If your boyfriend is not of legal age they can prevent you from getting married. Other than that, you are the ruler of your own destiny. Don't let anyone stand in the way of what you truly believe is your road to real happiness. Anything else is letting someone control your life, a very bad thing.
2007-03-07 07:14:41
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answered by pianofritz2 2
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Now a days loving a younger one is not at all a big thing , you must be knowing about your parents rite, tell your guy that " if our parents accept let us get married " ok , try to convince your parents , if are not accepting means ignore your love because your mummy and daddy are your world, they the one who gave you to this world, they gave you food, education and of corse now you are earning everything because of them only so they know which is good and bad to you, if you did register marriage and after when you parents don't accept i am sure it will end into some serious problem, if you get marriend to him with knowing anyone and after marriage if you get any problem nobody will come for the help even your friends and your parents will cooly they will tell you that "u the one who chosed your life on your own so please don't come to us"
To avoid all these things first convince your parents , if they are not accepting means go with your parents itself and tell it to your boy friend softly and convince him to forget you, i know it will pain you lot but no other go parents are something more than anything else.
2007-03-07 07:40:06
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answered by meena l 1
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That's so great that you found someone you truly love. Why does the age matter? My boyfriend is younger than me, but we're in love and it is working out fine. I know this can be more of an issue in certain cultures, but why not try to be happy in your life, and if that means being with a younger guy, then so be it. I hope if your parents realize how much you want to be with this guy, then they will share your happiness and let you be with the one you love. When it comes down to it, it's your life and you have the power to make your own decisions. Good luck!
2007-03-07 06:01:21
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answered by Meowzer 4
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hey jaanu
i am really sure that u are from india well u cant have sex and still be a virgin u know,,,,i mean on one side u want to be with that guy and on the other respectul dont wanna go against ur parents the thing is as long as u guys are above 18 nobody can tocuh u legally thats for sure and u know it second of all u cant ignore a sickness long cause its gonna get u and when it gets u its gonna be for a long period,u want to marry him and stay with ur parents and they wont force u to marry other guy hell they will cause u have married secretly ,,,the best thing is talk with your parents face to face be confident...just say u liek this guy dont say them that u have an affair or somethin just tell them that u liek a guy and u want them to meet him and also i was wondering if the guy wants to marry u why didnt he straight away go to your parents ,,,see parents main concern is wher is their lovely daughter goin i mean who is she marrying ..see if that guy fits ur family and sit down for 3 hours try to be in ur parents shoes see what questions coem to u as a parent write it down tick the qualities what that guy already has and work on the qualities he doesnt have see i have seen many cases where guy and gurl gets marries in haste but then in a month or 6 month they go apart now am not sayin this happen to u god forbid that ..but what if some **** happens and at that tiem u need ur parents ,they are gonna say hell it was ur desicion u know...and beleive me u dont want that dont take hasty desicions u know....younger older doesnt matter as long as u have a beautiful chemistry between each other and it should last forever and u should be a best judge
u take care
never hide from parents especially big things
cause lies can be temporary but when it hits u its gonna be forever
take care
god bless
be good
vagabond
2007-03-07 06:05:09
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answered by vagabond x 3
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do things which ur heart says !!!!, u need to keep cool if you really want to face the music,,, bcoz you will have lots of opposition, dnt give up.. as along as thngs are correct, even u mild dilemma abt ur love, pls dont spoil the guys life,,,,if ur committed then stand to it, otherwise dont committ urself and explain him y cant ,,,, see basically i dont belive this concept- that one get marry wth younger person,, absloute crap !!!!!
bcoz for the simple reason ,, biologically it doesnt matter and its albaout what we think and our perception towards it and naturally makes you feel somthing big and wrng.,,,
all the celebrites have proven by getting married to much younger to them,,
sachin- anjali-( more than 3 yrs)
saif ali khan- amrita singh ( do not exactly knw hw many yrs- but definately younger
and list goes on,,,,,
see as far as the register marriage is concern- i would strongly request not do that,, have faith in you not in register paper
if ur really determine wait and shw your resistence and get married wth guy,, until they aggree be wth, bcoz that will only help them atleast you respect them,,
if get register- ask for the permission- then sum thng like you lost value,, one is that u have gone against thier ideas and chosen the guy and getting resgister wth out their knowledge- it will big impact on them- nor they wd happiy give what u want- may be out of compulsion they may go wth- is this is what u want ??
after all its ur life- take a call- believe urself- parents and freinds will follow you-
All the very Best
2007-03-07 06:12:45
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answered by Ajay . k 1
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like someone said before so wot if he is 3 years younger than u at least u both luv each other but that means that u care for him and you don't care wot your mom and dad go through you should at lease tell them you know wot sort of a daughter r u u care for your lover and not for your parents you should listen 2 them if they say u can marry him then do so and if they say no then don't u never know how your lover turns out after your married the partner your parents choose for daughters all way's be perfect parents know wot they are doing if it is wrong or right please don't marry him without telling your parents if you do people will talk and your parents will be ashmed of ther selves and you
2007-03-07 06:27:36
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answered by Anonymous
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Hey, what's wrong in loving a guy who is 3 years younger? My husband is 4 years younger and we have been married for 7 years already. We were even married in church! Go ahead let your parents know and get marry.
2007-03-07 07:41:55
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answered by Sabrina 2
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If he is 18 years old you can have civil marriage.
See a lawyer for consent age in your area.
Or go to civil court and ask for information on registered marriage they should give you a list of document and requirements.
No one can force you to get married to any one just say to your perants not to look for a boy, for you yet, you are not ready yet to get married, you need more time.
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Avoid the age issue, tell him to ware conservative dress, when he meets your parents, if they ask his age, tell them to guess then do not correct them.
2007-03-07 06:04:08
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answered by minootoo 7
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First how old are you. If you are above 21 there is no need for your parents permission.
But even if you are above 21 wait for till you above 25. Still if you feel the same way, go ahead and marry.
2007-03-07 05:58:16
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answered by tadepalli_dayal26 1
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the biggest issue here is you have to see that your parents should not have this much influence in your life, he is 3 years younger and both working, you are both old enough to know your own mind and make your own decisions, whilst no one wants to upset their parents, its not expected that they should dictate your every action either, 3 years age difference is nothing, nothing at all, Talk to your parents, tell them you have met someone and want to introduce him to them, and take it from there, otherwise they will arrange for you to marry someone else, you have to make a stance, good luck
2007-03-07 06:02:04
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answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7
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