Why do I attract players? How can I tell they are Players before I fall for them?

Answer 1

Good question. Players come in different ages, shapes, sizes and races. The only way to truly tell who you're dealing with is to not have sex with them and spend quality time with them and around their friends. Doing this will let you know alot about someone. If a guy still wants to spend time with you after he sees you aren't trying to have sex with him...he's a keeper.

Answer 2

You are letting them hit on you.

Take a more aggressive approach and find a guy that looks interesting and hit on him. Better if he seems a little shy. The odds are, he's not a player. Players sense you are easy at the beginning. As in "easy to fool."

I had a friend that would locate them across the room. If they had that look of "loneness" and look of hoping someone would come talk to them he could locate them in an instant. Don't know how it did it, but that's all he was his whole life... a player. Getting you into his trap was his goal.

I think with them it's like tasting all the different wines and thinking that they will come up with their favorite, but they never do.

Here is what you are having a hard time distinguishing...

If a guy is very concerned about pleasing you and he isn't doing the same for other people around him, then he is not a pleasing junky, but a player.

I'm not going to say that you are getting what you deserve, but many girls want to live in that fantasy land where there is a guy out there that only wants to please her and no one else. When you finally get that guy he is a player or very dependent on you... just the opposite of what you want or respect.

Answer 3

Um, you don't attract players. Players hit on all women. And you fall for players because well, you are a woman. If they can't get you to fall for them then they don't exactly qualify as being players do they?

That's just how it is. Women look for a certain set of qualities in men. Those qualities usually have a lot to do with attraction, but not much to do with being good in a relationship.

Example, you know that platonic nice guy friend that you have? The one that you love - but as a friend, you think of him as your brother, you two are oh so close and can talk for hours? Yeah, that guy would not be a player, but you're not attracted to him. Instead, you want the "exciting" guy. Chances are so do most other women. Well since those "exciting" guys have all these women wanting them, guess how they're gonna act?

You don't want another player? Simple, date that nice guy friend of yours.

Answer 4

What's A Player?

Answer 5

Hi! Players are usually insecure underneath and will play the "need you, want you card" which to a woman means we want to nurture them ---we become "mommy" to them. They are great in the beginning but leave when the chase is over. The way you tell a player is that they will be very attentive to you, they will first want to please you and then they start revolving you around what pleases them. They leech off you to make their egos grow and they feel less insecure. They actually are big babies that wont grow up. They are usually good looking and they give you a rush of emotion. Your chemical makeup will usually tell you that he turns you on. But after 4 years the body becomes immune to those chemicals and you are left with a big selfish baby. I found that I have to really fight my impulses when I feel that rush. It took me 30 yrs. to learn that and now have been married to a wonderful man for 23 yrs. After you are married the problem doesn't just stop. I have to be on my guard not to fall again for a player. They are a real temptation. Good luck!

Answer 6

maybe you're pretty and a guy feels threatened by your popularity with the opposite sex so he tries to claim his dignity by acting like a player. he may really like you and just be trying to impress you, or you may be just one of them. Only way to know is don't accept being treated badly, if he cancels plans, etc, doesn't respect you then plain and simple tell him you want a guy that can respect you. either he'll move on or he'll get honest.

Answer 7

I assume you dress like a player.

Answer 8

gamers do no longer fall in love reason this is the character of being a participant--to play human beings. definite, maximum of them have been hoodwinked by technique of a woman or will sooner or later. the varieties they fell for little doubt, have been ones that performed them or cheated on them and left him. definite, she grew to become into prob a participant or a b!tch who did no longer post together with his nonsense. If he wanted her back, he prob the two tried to get her back or in basic terms decrease his losses.

Answer 9

Well, they have the "look"!! Which all gals search for. They agree with you and have the same interests as you. They seem to good to be true. Don't always have time for you as they are busy hunting! Maybe its the places your meeting them as they all hang out around the smae crowd or enviroment.
Try someone normal looking, normal job, who treats you well and always has time for you!!!

Answer 10

haha you're kinda like me.
but i don't think there is a way to know if they are players beforehand. the best you can do is ask around, maybe his friends or anyone who knows him. ask about his relationship history. that might give you a good idea as to how he handles things.