Sex before Marriage?

Question

Do you think sex before marriage is common now a days? Those who had sex in young ages, - What do you feel for that? I am 16 and highly tempted to have, but want to know your experiences and feelings.

I value my parent's feelings. And prefer to have sex only with my husband, once I am married. But almost all my friends are lost already and a devil inside me tempts me too... That made me to ask this question.

Answer 1

Yes it is common.

Today sex before marriage has become very common and people think specially teenagers it’s normal to have sex before getting marred. I think they don’t understand the real meaning of Gods word “enjoy the life at it’s fullest”. Yes, sex is pleasurable and people think that God designed sex so people will get pleasure whenever they want and it’s a way of enjoying your life but I think it is wrong way of thinking, even though people say that I’m narrow minded. I think God doesn’t want sex before marriage to prevent and protect us from unwanted pregnancies and also children born to parents who do not want them or are not ready to take care of them.
I think that Sex before marriage may change your future and you may have negative risks both mentally and physically in the future. Something else specially today teenagers have sex thinking that their partner loves them but I guess they are wrong, in my opinion 90% of teenagers are in relationship only for sex and If you have sex before marriage you will never know whether the relationship is based on a true love with that person or just sex and another fact that sex before marriage is wrong is the bible because it says that it’s a sin to have sex before marriage but I guess today people have forgotten about the bible and God, all they think is to make “love” and enjoy the life by sinning. Sex is like a beautiful gift. It's only one special gift that should not be wasted I think and if you love someone you will wait until marriage to have sex because it will make it more special.
Honestly, I can say that it’s up to the person to make a decision to have sex or not. For instance, I don't believe you should be married to have sex, but I do believe you must be a very responsible and ready by ready I mean when you are mature enough to do so, I think it is much more reasonable to have sex once both people have finished their studies, have full time jobs and are capable enough to take care of themselves. By finishing my thoughts about sex before marriage I would say that “God gave us tools to enjoy the life but he also he gave guide on how should we use this tools in order to enjoy the life and get more satisfaction from the life so we have to follow the guide in order to have good life”.

Answer 2

You can wait until you're married to have sex; that doesn't mean that your husband will be good in bed, or that the wait will have been worth it. You can have sex before marriage, but that doesn't mean that the man you'll eventually marry won't think of you as just as special, whether you were a virgin or not. What it boils down to is: What do you as a person have to offer another person in a relationship? Some women think that little pink spot between their legs entitles them to 'special treatment', only to find out once their virginity is gone, the leftover container is just like everybody else's. Religious beliefs make sex a commodity...
Work on becoming a complete human being and have many facets to offer the world...making yourself a life-support system for a vagina is selling yourself short!

Answer 3

I think the only way in order to not have regrets is to not have some rule like "I won't have sex before marriage"-which is something physically done. Nowadays people don't take marriage all too seriously a lot of the times anyway. So I think the best rule for someone who wants that same thing should instead say no sex before love. Once you have that feeling where it just feels right then there is no reason to regret it afterwards. But many people don't associate sex with love anymore. For many it is just another physical need.

Answer 4

When i was your age I was still a virgin and proud of it.
I lost it in my 20s, when my body, my man, and my own soul felt that I had to do what i needed. I got married when i was 30, so as you see, in my case I would have waited for another 10 years of my life? How selfish for society letting us stay virgin until marriage. That was last generation when marriage was in your 18s, and you were young, just clean for the man. How selfish. But also, I do not want to tell you sex would be the best thing in life. It can be joy for some, and disappointment for others.

Enjoy of what you are now, and when the time comes, you'll know. Just be careful to use condom just in case you get pregnant from early age and your life is then forever as a mother, and not a free woman to have success, life, joy and fun.

Answer 5

This isn't condoning it, or anything....but, sex before marriage is quite common these days.

I remember when I was your age. There was a bit of hypocrisy in what I was being taught. My parents taught me to wait until I was married...that was the right thing to do. And, it does make sense.

However, I was also told to finish college and have my own life established before I got married. Which would put me in my mid-twenties before I could get married.

Now, who could realistically expect someone to wait until their mid-twenties to have sex? I mean, it is possible...but, highly unlikely.

Given that....here is my best advice. Don't do it until you feel totally comfortable to do so. Save that first time, for the most special guy in the world....one that you really could marry, someday. And, realize....that to give your virginity to someone....is a really big deal. It's a precious gift to a guy. So, make sure he is worthy of that gift.

You will have to make your own decision as to when. Just be true to your heart and to your own feelings. Never let anyone push you into it. Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 6

Never think that without sex, there's no relationship. Dun be tempted, as Quiet Don already gave a very good reason. I also dislike the idea, having sex b4 marriage. Unnecessary pregnancy, is the result of sex b4 marriage. Even at this modern society, pregnant b4 married are a talk of the village. I'm sure you dun wan to go thru the agony and the shame that you brought on your own parents. For guys, it's easy for them, as they dun have to be held responsible at all.

U better think extra careful as to why u need the sex b4 marriage. If a guy truly love u & treasure u, he won't be asking you for sex. If he insisted that you need to give him sex to proof your love towards him, then you can reconsider this guy. He's a selfish type of person, if he got such thinking. Seriously, this is the truth. Lots of girls got themselves into trouble just because of this type of guys.

Answer 7

I did it, but don't agree with it anymore. I have now decided to wait until I'm married.

Take it from someone that lost their virginity at a very young age - it complicates relationships, especially if you don't know the facts.

I don't think a woman will ever be truly ready to have sex until she is married. When the relationship goes sour you are left with the baggage and carry it over to the next relationship and so on.

I'm lucky to have sorted through most of my experiences (IN THERAPY), but some people carry these sexual issues around for many years and it ruines relationships and sex in marriage, which should be a wonderful part of your relationship with your husband/wife.

16 is very young - please think twice before giving into temptation.

Answer 8

ya it is common now a days, but it can't be taken as granted very easily.
many complications may arise later when u get married. -- like u may compare your husband's performance with your ex partner and find your ex better then your hus. then its a very big problem for you. you cant leave your hus and cant forget your ex.

you may get addicted to sex and it may lead to have many partners before marriage. this can lead to STDs or unwanted pregnancy.

to control devil within, you can take help of masturbation and can use various sex toys for your satisfaction.
but i advice to wait till 20. you are quite young for having sex.

Answer 9

Let me put it like this when i was in highschool and i was senior i was one of the few virgins.......so yes it was common.......and yes i believe in sex before marriage.....but only do it if you feel ready and if you love someone......my suggestion is wait until youve been with them for awhile.......and at least wait until after highschool so that way you dont accidently end up with a kid(guy or gal both have responsibility for it) while still in school.....

Answer 10

It's very common. I was 17 when I did it for the first time.