im into bad boys and a year ago started talking to a italian dope dealer who is incarcerated he was talking to this older italian woman and when she found out about me talking to him all she did was start harrassing me calling me the n word my friend who is hispanic the s word i called her racist names back i told him and he said it was only natural and he still is talking to me and ditched her cause she started flipping out posting all types of blogs keep in mind she admitted she had never met him but had been writing him for 2 years i like him alot but i dont want to get serious with him cause i figure cause he is italian and im black all he wants to do is sleep with me he said race doesnt matter to him or his parents when he told his dad about me he just asked when was he getting grandkids and he tells him to tell me hi but in the back of my mind it's hard to believe that he would want something longterm with me and i keep questioning him am i wrong for feeling like this i dated a few white guys who only dated me to see what it was like to date a black girl then split cause they didnt think i acted black enough how can i stop feeling like this"
2007-03-06 21:02:52 · 5 answers · asked by shyababy05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have a serious problem here. Why in the world would you go for a guy that is like this. My whole life I was attracted to the "bad boy" type. Believe me it's not worth the trouble. The last bad boy I dated was a drug dealing/petty theiving/ (great hearted, so I thought) guy. He got me pregnant and was in and out of jail the whole time we were together. He left me and my daughter, when she was 3 months old, so he could ensure a life of drugs and sex with other people.
Your man will never change, rehabilitation is not the way to go. To rehabilitate means to put them back where they were before they were incarcerated. When we should be changing the way they think and live their lives.
I'm now married to an ex-cop/Army guy/bounty hunter. Who makes my life so completely perfect. We have 2 beautiful children and I'm so thankful that I decided to give him a chance. I was skeptical at first, but dove in and now the water is great!
RUN RUN RUN...You need someone who can be there for you and can be a great father. He obviously thinks his life as a drug dealer is so important, he will never change!!!
Give your life a chance, break free and start living.
If I may for a second:
To KYLE E, You are wrong about the race thing. I look white, but have so many other nationalities in my blood. People who judge because of color or religion, have no place in society. I just wanted to tell you that from a "White's" perspective, I want to break the mold. Through God you can learn to love everyone. I would never place a label on a race, just because some choose a terrible life for themselves. Your race is beautiful, no matter what racist people say. You have gained so much strength throughout the years. It's about taking your life to a place of "visual" strength. I can respect a person who does not judge race on a stereotype. Please don't follow the crowd, not all people are racist. My step son and brother in law are Black. It's in my family (my blood). It's a beautiful thing if you respect it. Red and Yellow, Black and White, we are precious in HIS sight. Remember this and you will go far sweetie. I love you and everyone in this world, no matter what color you are. You chose your life, not your race.
Make them proud by breaking this terrible cycle.
2007-03-06 21:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, it's time to change your love routine...do you want to get hurt or killed?
I knew somebody who was dating a person dealing drugs in a huge drug ring...and basically, she lost ALL of her hard earned cash(in the bank) with this fella..AND, she had to leave the state!!! Too many people knew about her...and wanted her dead!
It was sooo unreal and scary...and she then had to move out of the country....because her family was very frightened that she would be killed!
Please..hear what I am saying to you....please, remove yourself from this situation...or you might not be alive..much longer...
You deserve somebody so much better...honest....and ya know there are some guys out there, that would treat you with so much love,and respect....(I will even add, that some of the "bad boys" that you love..cannot believe how "stupid" women are..and they fall "hook,line,and sinker" every single time for a guy like them, to them, they just laugh about it..and think, "WOw! This lady must be pretty needy!!! I can get cash out of her...and credit cards etc....a meal ticket!" I knew other men like this...I met one of them on match.com..and he kept blabbing that all women are like this! (I think NOT!)
You need to be sooo much BETTER than what these men think of women that take up the "bad boys"!!!
I was afraid for my friend...she and her friends were very nearly killed! That Drug ring is strong..and so far, I don't think anybody ever found out about them...and they are a well-known drug ring in my friends' homestate.....It's frightening to know that for at least a year or longer..she had to get out of the area!!!
and that she could have easily have lost her life...boyfriend or no boyfriend...he didn't give a &^%$#@!!!!
Please, you need to find a MAN that is so much stronger than this person..you like....YOUR LIFE isn't worth "NOTHING"...
IF your family doesn't care..then I will tell you, that other people in this world certainly do care about other human beings...and I am saying that where ever your "truelove" is...he isn't the dope dealer....you might not be alive...if you stay.....
please....I am telling you what I knew only a few years back....I would rather see you live...than not be here , any longer!
Wishing you the best!!!
2007-03-07 05:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by ladyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i feel you. I'm black, born and raised in Detroit. And this is gonna sound bad, but no one is ever going to understand you outside of other blacks, or hispanics. I live in the sub-urbs now. And i've had more issues with race, (including, losing jobs, evictions, police harrasment, fights) Even if they say they accept you, you might not have noticed yet, but i was tought this along time ago by my mom. By being Black, you represent every black face in the world. You curse, smoke, yell, fight, and every person outside of your race will tell all their friends, and family how "black people" do things. If you called her out of her name everyone who saw it will now label the entire race. Anyhow on to the subject, Leave him. I've sold dope, and i've been locked up. (I've reformed also) He's into fast things, and unless your up for alot of bull, back out now while you can. Cheating on you, threats, dumping you, all sorts of messed up things come with the fast life. So while your thinking about hit baby, move on.
2007-03-07 05:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should hit me up cause im not in jail-and ill make u feel better about yourself
2007-03-07 05:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by franceschovitch 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call Dr Phil
this would be an awsome show I would watch
2007-03-07 05:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by jolin3762003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋