I have decided that I do not want to continue my current relationship. It's 4:30 a.m., she's downstairs. Most of her stuff is here, she doesn't have a car, lives 1 hour away. I told her that I'm not sure if I want to be with her, that I need time. I have been completely honost with her and will do nothing but that. The problem is if I break it off right now she will be hysterical, call her parents...all around bad situation. I am suposed to bring her home in a few hours and, for both of our sake, I need to do it before then. I need to break it off, I know there's no easy way. I just need advice. There is no specific question...I just need help. I really care about her and want to do this right. I will be honest no matter what...please help?
2007-03-06 20:41:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go to sleep, not in the same bedroom.
In the morning say 2 her that you spend the night thinking what happened yesterday, and that you don't want to continue this relationship any more.
You need time and she needs to live from the house today.
As soon as possible because u don't want to fit again.
Don't leave the house, be there to check what she takes.
And tell her to give you the key that she has, if she has.
Don't let her go with the key.
Good luck,.
2007-03-06 20:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female...I think if you are honest with her and tell her your feelings and the reason why you want to break up with her she will respect that more than if you just tell he you want to break up and leave it at that, or give the old favourite 'its not you its me'. If you think that there may be a time in the future that you will want to start over with her and you just need time to sort through your feelings, let her know and if that is the case, communicate with her in a few weeks just to let her know how you are going with the decision.
I would also ask her what her feelings are about the relationship, she may also have some doubts deep down, but give her the opportunity to express her feelings to you, don't just tell her yours and walk away. Talking through things with her, may give you a clearer perspective.
Perhaps when the two of you have talked it through, explain it to her parents if you can and tell them that you have a lot of respect for their daughter and only want to do the right thing by her...they will respect you for being open and honest with them.
I am very impressed that you are really thinking about this and how if will affect her...I could only wish others were more like you in that respect.
Remember communication is they key to it...she will most likely still be upset, but at least you haven't been a total bastartd and you know you have done the right thing.
Good luck with it, I hope this has helped you a little.
2007-03-06 20:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her a reason why you want to break-up. Unless the reason is acceptable to her I think you're being not fair to her. Have an honest chat with her before you bring her home. However, if eventually she agrees to the break-up, you owe it a duty to speak with her parents and let them know the reason for the break-up.
2007-03-06 20:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to be hysterical no matter when you do it. Break it off now and get it over with. Dont use the lame excuse "Its not you its me" everyone knows that is a lie! Be gentle and honest, she will get over it, you need to do what you feel you need to do.
2007-03-06 20:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK, YOU NEED TO PICK A TIME AND A PLACE. YOU MUST BE HONEST. TELL HER TO STAY THE NIGHT AND THAT THERE IS NO INTIMACY. THEN TAKE HER HOME-WITH HER STUFF AND TELL HER. IF HER PARENTS FREAK OUT ALL YOU GOT TO DO IS SAY THIS."MR----- I BROUGHT YOUR DAUGHTER HOME. I AM BRINGING HER HOME BECAUSE IT IS NOT IN MY BEST INTEREST TO CONTINUE WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP. SHE CAN DO BETTER. I DON'T WANT TO BE AN *** SO I THOUGHT YOU SHOULD HEAR IT OUT FROM ME." THEN EXIT.
2007-03-06 20:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you, if your not happy then get out of the situation. Things will work out for the best. Good luck, I hope I helped a little bit
2007-03-06 20:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by missthang229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if possible u dont breake relationship at all, atleast u keep relationship as a friend with her.
2007-03-06 20:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till she's at her place untill you tell her,but always be honest.
2007-03-06 20:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring her back
2007-03-06 20:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Caring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋