Why are looks so important these days?

Question

Im 13, and im fat, iv had 1 girlfriend ( on and off for about 2 years )so shes basically about it.

I want to know why looks are so important!

The girl i love ( yes, im 13, but i do actually love this person ) goes for looks, so those guys dont actually like her and treat her like crap! So once they break up she comes crying back to me and the rest of our friends and it reapetes. I know she ONLY like me as a friend because she made it clear many times. She has the greatest personality and she beautiful. WHY are looks SO important?!


Its not fair.

So far some of your answers have been helpfull, some havent such as

sophacles_selcahpos- You say that because your good looking, so im guess you enjoy have people bow down to you.

michelebaruch- I think you were trying to help but some parts pf what you said made me feel worse

Answer 1

hmm im 13 too, im average for my age im 55 kilos so thats a lil annoying, but i dunno y looks are that important, in this world ppl are always looking good and celebrities always look thin and good and i guess it rubs on the public, anyways u can add me on yahoo if u like, or email me

Answer 2

I believe this is because people only like and want to be look at the eye level.
Basically, looks are the primary tool where people generates an impression from and that's also spells the first stage of generating perception.

Looks can be important.
But, the only distinguishing factor that will connect you with people is the way u behave, think and react to or rather your personality. This is becasue as a couple gets along for quite some time, the looks do not play such an important role anymore.

Being fat is ok! Personally, I do know of people who are fat, yet they are living happliy and some even had boyfriends/girlfriends.
It all depends on how people look/view fat to be.

What really matters is that you are healthly and happy about your life!
The most important thing is to live your life to the fullest!
So, don't be upset! Your love will come by one day!



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Answer 3

You are only 13 so everything looks so dark, and horrible. At this age looks are very important. But don't let it get you down.

As far as you weight goes, it has nothing to do with looks, it is just a turn off no matter how old you are. For you health sake you should try, and lose some weight. It will help in the relationship department also.

You say it's not fair. No it's not but it is up to you to do something about it. Would you like her so much if she were fat. Think about it. So there is you answer.

Answer 4

You are still very young. To give you hope, you should try to get into shape or take up a hobby that could possibly help you lose some pounds. That way you could have something else to add to the equation other than the fact that you are kind, understanding and a considerate friend. She evidently does not feel threatned by you. That's more important than having looks and her not trusting you in some way. I think you may have kind of a low self-esteem about yourself. Don't worry so much about looks. You seem to have a good heart and her trust. But, if you don't feel as though you are attractive enough, try to join a gym or get active in a sport or activity that would make you look and feel better about yourself. How you perceive yourself is more important than how others see or think about you. Remember that.

Answer 5

Life is not fair, looks are not everything but some people do, those that do get hurt by people that use them and when they find outt he loks are not what they expected thery run away, it is normal and your age you are learning the hard way. You have a kind heartand this person uses you to make them fell better abouth themselves. Trouble is yo don't care enought about yourself to drop her and find someone who loves you, and do n't let anyone every tell you yo can't love at thirteen, you can and it always hurts.

Answer 6

Just like only poor people say money isn't everything, only ugly people ever say that looks aren't important. That is utter nonsense. If you're good looking the world will bow at your feet. Looks really do count.

Answer 7

Its pretty sad, but I don't think its just "these days". I think looks have always been important... But everyone has a different standard of what is "beautiful", so while one person may think you're butt ugly, someone else may find you attractive, you just gotta find the right person.

Answer 8

boy,

you seem to have kind hearted.

Looks v been always important from the begining of history

its cold reality.

you live not in an isolated island. its our culture.

I am sorry , but the more you look better, it seems tome,

the better advantage you have.

of course looks are not everything.

if your poor girlfriend often gets hurt because of her looks,

its not enough just to consolate her, encourage her to have more selfrespect, to improve self image.

the healthier personality she has , the better she looks.

good luck young boy and to your girl griend.

Answer 9

well i won't say look is everything,but we can't even ignore it.its human nature to be attracted by a good packing (even if something rotten is inside it).we never really look for a nice human being.we r always in search of a beautiful and handsome partner. thats the fault of human thinking.if u really luv her and care for her from ur heart, one day she will definitely realise ur importance in her life.don't worry.