2007-03-06 19:55:11 · 16 answers · asked by funnybone 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
I am female 23 years old.
2007-03-06 19:55:34 · update #1
236 is a lot. That's what I weigh. I'm a 5'10 guy. I will be completely honest with you, and keep in mind that I do not want to be mean, just honest. The only kinds of people I think would be attracted to you are people with an over-weight people fetish, or really really nice guys who haven't done a thing wrong in their lives, or maybe just someone who's never been with anyone before.
The kind of guy you would want, is probably not the guy you could get weighing what you do. You're probably are a very cool person and stuff, but in order to show someone that, you first have to get their attention, in a good way. I am not sure why you weigh that much, so I won't assume you eat fattening things all the time, because you could have gland disorder or something.
Deal with your weight first, and guy's 2nd. Use that as motivation, and constantly remind yourself of why you want to lose weight. I'm sure you already think to yourself "I weigh to much, I need to lose weight." I think that to myself too. But the thing that will make a difference is what you are willing to DO about it, not JUST think about it. Thinking about it is just half of it. Try portion control, and before you eat something, ask yourself "Do I NEED this?"
You, of course, need to eat, but not when you're not hungry, or things that will make your goal harder to reach. You can do it! Try not to listen to all that "Don't lose weight, just be confident" and "Beauty is only skin deep" stuff, that (if you think about it) is kind of an excuse for weighing what a person weighs. Remember, your health is at risk too. Feeling confident won't prevent a heart-attack.
2007-03-06 20:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The more YOU feel beautiful, the more people will be attracted to you. This is true no matter what your size. Focus on feeling comfortable in your body. Be active; take up an activity you really like. Treat your body well. It's cliched, but your body IS your temple. That doesn't mean you have to be hypervigilant about putting junk food in it, but you should nourish yourself well on the whole.
Maybe you're perfectly healthy as you are. Maybe you'd like to lose some weight. Either way, you won't feel fulfilled until you love yourself -- whether you weigh 136 or 236. Appreciate your body, your mind, your soul and the wonderful things you can do and create.
(From a less abstract perspective: plenty of guys admire and are attracted to larger women. You can Google "FA" to discover entire communities of men and women who are attracted exclusively to heavier females.)
2007-03-07 04:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by jazzy girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but it will be one of those guys that like big chicks.
I think you probably need to go cold turkey. I did it before.
Just stop eating for a day and barely add things the next day. You will be thinking about food 24/7 but the longer you can go and only add a little the more you will find that your body adapts to it. Basically I only ate one meal a day... my favorite one. I didn't gorge myself and I didn't try to leave everything out. When you do finally get to that single meal of the day don't sit there thinking how good it is, start thinking what you are going to do next.
I lost 40 lbs once doing this. Didn't follow a diet or get all those crazy ideas in my head that I needed some type of this or that nutritirion. As I started losing that is when I added vitamins and minerals.
I know the so called "experts" will claim my idea is stupid and this is stupid, but I met a guy that was 300 lbs his whole life until he was about 30 and he made a diet for himself. He said that the easiest food that he liked the most was boiled eggs and that is all that he ate until he got down to 170. He said it was probably terrible but it caused him to hold his weight at 170 for years.
You really need to do it at least once to see if you are missing anything. I'm getting ready to do it again since I am now single (but a lot older than you).
Here's what I am saying... instead of thinking I have to lose down to 140 or it won't be worth it... don't think that at all. Just think, "Can I knock off 30 lbs in about a month?" Try that and when you do drop those lbs, see if you don't feel better about yourself and feel more attractive. If not, big deal, you haven't lost anything but time.
You really start thinking a lot more sexy thoughts and I think that makes you appear more attractive to others. I'm not saying "horny" but sexy.
2007-03-07 04:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Someone being attracted to you shouldn't have any thing to do with your size. It should be because of who you are as a person. If they are only attracted to you because of the way you look, then maybe it isn't a person with strong morals to begin with. I would be more worried about myself weighing 236 pounds, then being worried about someone being attracted to me. You are trying to put the "cart before the horse." Worry about what YOU HAVE TO DO FOR yourself FIRST, and then worry about someone being attracted to you, THAT IS, IF YOU THINK THAT IS SOMETHING THAT IS WORTH WHILE TO WORRY ABOUT! I personally don't think it is, the more you are concerned about it, the less results you are going to have happen the way you want it to happen. Worry about "who you are on in the inside," and lets face it, maybe it's not your 236 lbs. that is keeping people away from you, maybe it is something that they don't like about your personality.
2007-03-07 04:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not pay attention to what some of these guys said on Yahoo answers. God made you to be the way that you are and God loves you for who you are. Let your inner beauty shine and the outside appearance will not matter at all. Remember that God loves you and He made you in His own image. God loves everyone that he creates.....big and small....short and tall.....if someone can not accept you just the way that you are....then they are not of God and they are not worthy of your precious time. You are a princess...because we are all God's children. Jesus is the King and we are his daughters...that makes all of us princesses. The next time you look in the mirror, remind yourself that you are a princess and God will take care of the rest.
When your right love comes your way, he will love you for who you are and do not let anyone tell you that you have to change for anyone....because you do not. God loves you no matter what. I hope that all your greatest dreams come true in life. =) Blessings to you, Tonya in WV, USA
2007-03-07 04:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by baby_tonna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But only if you are completely happy with yourself and confident. But its sounds to me like you weight is bothering you too. Lots of men like bigger women. But if you are not happy with your weight change that first. Couse relationships are hard enough as it is, ad low self esteem and a weight problem to that and you will have problems. If you are not bothered about it, don't worry! You will find someone that is attracted to you!
2007-03-07 04:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by feel_like 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-07 04:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by evrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever lose hope, true love comes to those who hope and long for it.
P.S. Physical attraction is over-rated. There's a guy out there who is looking for you too.
2007-03-07 03:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by shakensunshine86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your personality is what makes you attractive. Women who are slim and beautiful may receive attention but it is superficial. If they have terrible personalities, their mates leave fast. If you are beautiful inside, others will find you beautiful.
2007-03-07 03:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by yumsorbet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not about looks darling. I'm 145 and 5'9" and am wondering the same thing
2007-03-07 03:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by actuatedtendancy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋