What sort of Upbringing did you have and would you change it?

Question

Were you born into money? or were you poor growing up? Did you have a privileged childhood or was it a struggle?
and would you change it if you could?

Answer 1

yes i would change. i would wish to have someone to call DAD even if its for sometime

i dont even know how to put it so that u can get it.dont have a name to give it but i would never bring up a child that way.
am the 11th born in a family of 15.my mother is old tho nowadys people will get just 1, 2 or 3 kids n thats it.
i never used to face my father.that tells you who he was. i remember a day when i really wanted to just c him n spend some minutes with him cos i missed him a lot but instead when he saw me, he said that i took his touch n he beat me a lot.i forgave him but i really dont forget cos of the many times it happened.my mother was struggling looking for school fees for us n i also remember my father asking me to give him my fees that he would deposit to the high school account but that was the last time i saw him. he went his own ways to enjoy with 'others' n the next time i was 2 c his body. my older brothers and sisters are ok now n they have good families. my mother n i struggled to work to get money for college n am working now n support my younger bro n sis who are about to finish their college.
i still sustains marks of beatings (even my elders) but am happy now. but..
i would only bring up a child to this world when i know how it will survive much better than i did.
i pray hard hard to get a man (who will get married to) who has his father alive.i will really love that

Answer 2

I wouldn't change anything about mine we didn't have much dad and mum worked and I was the youngest of 4 with a big gap between me and the rest, so I was spoilt in the fact that I got more than the other 2 eldest as they were married when I was 7 and 10, I am closer in age to 5 of my nieces and nephews than their parents, the reason I got more was that they were both working only we still didn't have much. The love in the house was a wonderful warm feeling a very happy home, even some of my sisters friends say how she said about our house being a happy home. I am not a materialistic person and I appreciate everything I have and that is down to my upbringing. I think a loving home is much better than a home were there is money and not happiness, so in that case I felt like we had millions, lucky me.

Answer 3

I was a rich little spoiled brat growing up. But my family was very disfunctional. My father was constantly giving me everything I ever wanted, trying to buy my love, which I know sounds wonderful to some people. But when I got out in the real world, I had no concept of the value of money and went through hell trying to live on my own. Here it is 10 years later and I'm still struggling, but I wouldn't change anything even if I could. All of life's bad experiences have only made me stronger and more able to handle whatever may come next.

Answer 4

Growing up for me was quite difficult. The family was never together and when we were it was like we were strangers.
Christmas was a prime example, we had a tree and presents and turkey and all, but there was no family in the emotional sense. Throughout the whole of my childhood I was never hugged by my parents or was told they loved me.
I could never talk to my parents about girlfriends or troubles I had, they just weren't interested.
It was like being an orphan only with parents. My father and I only became close when I was in my very late 20's early 30's and then he died when I was only 36.
Both my parents were nurses and so we never had money in the real sense of the word. Yes we got by, but luxuries were few and far between. My childhood experiences had a very heavy bearing on my adult life until about 3 years ago. I have learnt to say I love you and to hug the ones I hold dear to me. I can't change the past, so I have changed my future.

Answer 5

I had a horrible childhood, and although I obviously can't change that, I can stop the pattern and make sure my daughter's is a more pleasant experience, with great memories and the knowledge that I will always be her mum no matter how old she gets. My dad hates me, don't know why - loves my sister, and my mum suggested I 'let go of the apron strings' when I was 14. And I was a good kid, it's not like a was out spraying walls, getting pregnant and shoplifting. I really have no idea, guess they just didn't like me!
I can see myself repeating some of the things my dad used to say to me, to my daughter, and I give myself a mental slap and sort it out. It's too easy to fall into - you follow your parents' example naturally. Hopefully, if I can succeed in breaking this chain, my daughter will never have this problem.
Seems to be working so far, she's growing up a great kid!

Answer 6

I was born into a dysfunctional family; my upbringing was horrendous. My mother dominated everything, including my father. We children were abused, physically, mentally and verbally all our lives by my mother. I know now she was a very sick person, and has got sicker with the years.
We were quite badly off too, but that wasn't an issue - most people were at the time; shortage of money was a way of life.
Yes , I would change things if I could. I would like to know what it was to have a mother's love and protection, and to know what it was to feel safe and secure as a child; not to be afraid all the time.

Answer 7

When I first read this ?, I thought "Hell yes!", but then I realised that all of the things I went through made me a the wonderful mother I am today. I was raised by a single-mom, in a low-income household, and I had very rough life. I moved about 30 times between the age of 4 and 17 and transferred 8 times in grammar school. But I have taken all of the mistakes of the past and dedicated myself to raising my childen properly. I have broken the cycle of abuse neglect that I experienced (not at the hands of my mom), and I have passed on all of the positives of my childhood. Everyone can't have a 'perfect' childhood, but as long as you can turn any negatives into positives, you're doing good.

Answer 8

I had a pretty strict upbringing. My father never smacked me but raised his voice and made sure we knew what our responsibilities were and if we made mistakes we were lectured etc etc. My mother on the other hand she choose to use her hand or any other item that may have come into her possession in the middle of a dispute. As you can imagine I left home at 17 lived with my boyfriend and his family etc.
I excelled in everything I did and achieved far more than my mother ever expected. I am happily married for the last 15 years have 3 beautiful children and she cut me and my family out of her life for the last 10 years and I am nearly 40. I have made a promise to myself that I will never treat my children the way she treated me and my brother (oh and she hasn't spoken to him now for 4 years either). Life is way to short and I want my children to enjoy their lives everyday and stand up for everything that is right and never be told that you are not good enough.

Answer 9

I was born into a poor family and my parents decided that spending what money they had on their booze addiction was better than spending money on simple things like food and clothes. I would not change it for the world though because it made me work harder in school and get the best out of the small education I had and I had more respect for my life than to grow into my parents. I don't earn lots of money but I know that I will always work hard and love any children I have and teach them self respect and honesty. I am not perfect but I aint a boozer! x

Answer 10

Even now you look back and say, what impact did my upbringing have on me, would i still be the same if i were richer; poorer, thin, overweight, beautiful, ugly?? The truth is if your poorer, overweight or ugly, ect.. you spent more time on your character to get people to like you. Although having "less" when your developing into and adult may be painful, if reflection to your peers. This character built can carry where others not dare tread. Strength from the inside from diversity prepares you well for all of lifes ups and downs.

Did not answer the question, passed my opinion on anyway.