There's a guy that I've known for a little over a month now and sometimes we talk on the phone. Long story short, he's a great guy, sensitive, courteous, respectful,-- just about what I've asked for. Except,--- I'm not really attracted to him or even "attached" to him. There are no sparks that fly. What also bothers me to some extent is our age difference: He's 34, while I'm 20. My mom and my sister both like him and think he's PERFECT but I still feel like something is missing from this whole puzzle.
On the other hand, not many of the guys that are in my age group have asked me out, except a few--- but I wasnt really interested.
Should I just "go for" the "Perfect" guy and see where it takes me? He's repeatedly offered to take me out, and I've repeatedly made excuses. AND I keep criticizing myself for NOT just accepting him and going for it.
2007-03-06 19:23:56 · 3 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey
You know what Im in the same postion as you are right now except im alot younger and so is the guy that im dealing with ! im 17 and hes 16 but heres the problem i dont feel anything for him and he is what i want in a guy but hes not attractive to me !My friends say the same thing that ur family tells you! But my mother tells me if you dont want him then whats the point in dealing with him anyway! Its true she has a point but yeah so right now i have him off my back and now we are real good friends but he still has feelings for me but i dont ! i do believe you will have someone perfect in you rlife someone that you want and will love at the same time ! so if i were you i would stop talking or seeing or being with this guy if hes not in some interst to you ! it would do the both of you good!cause then u will be hurting him more and not u ! so yeah if u need to talk u can email me anabell_bandini@yahoo.com i know im young but im sure not an idiot!:D
2007-03-06 19:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just going out with him for once or twice doesn't mean you have spend the life with him. You said he is a great guy but you feel nothing like love towards him. So, its ok, if he is really a good guy, he will respect your decisions and support as a friend. And if you go out with him for once in a while, may be you would be able to find more things about him, whether they are good or bad. And may be you would be able to find those missing pieces.
May be you are just not ready for a guy or him yet. So, I think you should give yourself some time and go as usual and see what happens. If you're ok with how you are now, then quit worrying and move forward. You will definitely meet someone you will really like.
2007-03-07 03:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Oni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is too old for you. 20 and 34 with a 14 years age gap. I don't know, the choice is yours. For me, its a no no.
2007-03-07 03:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋