well to cut a long story short...this guy and i were to gether lastyear...he then left me...came back after 4 months and...got pregnant by him...we both wanted it...but then he said he couldnt afford to have any children now...i then left town for a while, came back lost the baby - due to stress - he was gone for a while too...came back again and wanted to know how i was doing...NOW he wants to make right where he has wronged me...says he loves me and always has, but never realised it till now...he wants to take care of me and love me...wants us to get married...have children again and promised to support me this time around...WHAT AM I TO DO...I love him!
2007-03-06 19:13:29 · 13 answers · asked by Cayotegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After all that u're gone thru, u still luv him. Have to salute you yaar. If i was in your place........ wud have kick his *** long ago. U're a grown women and the decision lies entirely with you. But if u ask me, i wud say dump the man and stay away from him. If he can do it once, he'll do it again and again cos by now he has realised that u can't function without him. To him no matter wat he do to u, u will always accept him back. So watever you do, think and think 10 times cos tis is your future and life u're talking about. Pls don't rush into things. Thande demag nal soch and then decide
2007-03-06 19:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Akki's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart if he loved you in the first place you would not now Be where you are now, he feels guilt because you lost the baby, be Very careful don't walk into hell again. As for loving him I don't know you may think you do but I can't tell you for sure. Love is a choice you make it and stick with it through thick or thin, if he ran away after a child what makes you think he will stick around if you get pregnant again and get sick and could cost a lot of money? Just because it feels good don't mean it's love and don't mean it's right, use your brains on this one not your hormones. Your on a rebound and are looking for assurance.
2007-03-06 19:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad scene. That you Love him is good, Just hope he truely Loves you. Go slow and careful about it. He could well be true in his change of heart. Guys never change in a relationship, but while separated they CAN go through major turnarounds. Something like what you described could do that to a guy. Maybe he is truthful in his heart. I am pretty sure from what you say that he beleives he is, or wants to belive so anyways. Go with your eyes wide open and your heart protected, but maybe give him a chance. There is no guarantee to life. Hope for the best. I wish you the best, and I say go for it because you Love him.
2007-03-06 19:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Malcolm L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Marry him. He seems irresponsiable because when you got pregnant he was broke to help you with the child. Come on you can't trust some one like that. Plus he left you and came back thinking you was just waiting for him.. Well there is more FISHES IN THE SEA. The one for you will be here SOON just give it time and wait.
2007-03-06 19:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by JAMILAH D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO BE HONEST ...i feel for u ...ur situation is one of many hard situations i have heard of...but what could i sayy ...u love him ..i may b certain of that ...but duz he really love u ? this is the question ...i really hope he duz bcoz one question which crosses my mind is ...when u got pregnant was he there for u to stick around??? and what about after u lost it where was he ...why did he leave ...hun i really dont mean to hurt u but yes i understand ur love for him is able to fight the hurt he put u thru ..and it wasnt little...but umust ask ur self if he did it to me twice...will he do it after marriage ? and anutha question is did he really love me wen he was gone for a while..and was he standing beside u wen he said"he couldnt afford kids"...u c im only 18 ..but im enagaged and life has taught me sumthing ...LOVE is enduring thick n thin...he seemed to endure thin for a while there ...but seriusly all the lck to u ..in the end u decide n i guess the last thing u can possibly c to prove true is to ask him those questions and to c just how much he is willing to sacrifice to ensure u a happy marital life...mwa hope i helped!
2007-03-06 19:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by dina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should never need a man to support you financially emotionally or spiritually- sorry I just had to say it. And you need to stay away from this dude seriously have you heard of the saying "fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me" well in this situation you are to the line "did you mother drop you on your head when you were a baby" Sorry to be so blunt but this dude has some serious issues and seem like he doesn't know what he wants other than wanting to F@#$ w/your head. A healthy sane balanced women would not put up w/that crap and to have a kid w/hi HELLO have you not heard of K-FED? run sista run!!!
2007-03-06 19:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by missnibbles6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is not a man yet. He had the test of his life and he folded. And you, why are you getting pregnant? In my humble opinion the neither of you are mature enought o consider a long term relationship with each other.
2007-03-06 19:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him. You lost a baby because of the stress he caused you. I wouldn't trust the guy to do the right thing. Sorry, but that's the truth...
2007-03-06 19:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place, do you TRUST him? That is the basis of marriage and if there is no trust, you can forget about the marriage. Marriage is forever darling. Think about it.
2007-03-06 19:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk is cheap. Let him prove it through his actions. Don't marry him first either.
2007-03-06 19:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋