Ok, I have known 'Ken' for a little over a year now. We dated for months, and he broke it off due to his being bipolar. He told me that hes a different person every day, and he doesnt want to break up with me, but he doesnt want me to be 'dragged down' by his mood swings. He confided that he loved me to one of my friends a bit ago, and he believes that even though hes unhappy, hes doing the noble thing by trying to get me to be with someone that I deserve. What do you guys think? I love him dearly and I cant imagine him being alone (he isnt social, he visits 1 friend, if that) and having no one to lean on. Every time I tell him Im hear to listen to him, he makes himself more distant, and insists that we shouldnt be friends because he wont be able to keep his mind set. He thinks hes doing the right thing, but the truth is, its driving me NUTS, and he just as unhappy as I am. Any suggestions?
2007-03-06 18:35:26 · 3 answers · asked by blearghll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think, if you love him, you should find some way to make him see that you are there for him no matter what. Love doesn't have conditions. Love is what helps you get through life's problems. Speak to someone who can tell you how to get through to him and be there for him. He needs you as much as you need him.
2007-03-06 18:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Chester, you've got a tough one here. If you were to keep and increase the intensity of your relationship you run the risk of hooking up with someone who has serious mental problems. Sooner or later this can become a real drag. Bipolar can be controlled, in many cases, with medication. Many questions; how long bipolar, when diagnosed, taking meds, is he holding regular job and if so, for how long? Does he regularly visit with a psychiatrist or psychologist or counselor? If he is on meds, holds and has held a job for a long time, regularly gets checked for his meds and his mood stabilization with a counselor, then he can be a good prospect for a long-term relationship. The more of those features that are missing the chancier the relationship. Good luck with this one.
2007-03-07 02:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, stay with him and build a relationship to deal with the problem. Professional help will help dealing with the problem.
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2007-03-07 02:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋