My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 2 1/2 years and we live together. It seems like everytime i'm around him he wants to be 'frisky'. I feel like i don't even want to be around him sometimes, i love him very much but i feel like there's no pleasing him. Are a lot of men (he's 21) like this, is this normal?
2007-03-06 18:22:53 · 27 answers · asked by Ash 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ashley, all men are as different as all women. There are undoubtedly some women who would welcome this situation just as there are some who will side with you. You and your bf need to communicate about this. If it is a real issue for you, tell him and ask for his understanding. Some couples have sex multiple times a day, multiple times a week, and other frequencies. His wants don't seem to match yours...so talk about this and give it the seriousness it deserves. Are you considering marriage? Would this be an impediment to marriage as far as you're concerned? Are you looking at continuing the relationship and marriage is simply one of the multiple alternatives? If so, then start thinking about the alternatives now. Sort of depends on how much energy you want to invest in either talking or walking. Good luck.
2007-03-06 18:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ashley
Unbelievable you complain about a guy that wants to make love to you. I think you should chase him off there is so many women that would love to have your man your problems. Why would you be mad about a guy that you turn on enough he wants you all the time. You are making other women think you are sick not to want a man that wants you. At 21 on week ends I wanted it 4 times a day with the girl I loved. You must just be bragging for the other ladies on this site.
2007-03-07 02:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men make the mistake of associating sex with love. It is possible that he always wants to have sex because he is trying to get attention and some kind of acknowledgment that he is doing things right in the relationship. Don't be so hard on him, but you definitely need to discuss it with him. And yes, a lot of guys are like that.
2007-03-07 02:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup. Its part of the "triumph of life" here on earth.
Those who are "good" with it are more successful in the end. After all, they'll be having more progeny to pass their genes on. Boys that are not so good with it are dead end genes... Which kind of male would you prefer???
'find this insulting or degrading? Well from an unconventional perspective, its part of the success of every living species on this earth - Always is, always will be.
But of course, it should work out for both of you, not for one person only. Just have a good talk with each other, often!
2007-03-07 02:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by justine d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is how men express affection for the women they are attracted to. If you remove that form of expression from the equation, he'll seek that release and the accompanying reaction and support elsewhere. It's not just emotional for men, it's physical as well. 'Cuddling' alone doesn't get it!
2007-03-07 02:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you are fairly young. He has raging hormones that are built into humans. It is civilized to keep them in check. But the presence of woman sometimes overwhelms the thinking. Have you tried talking to him about this? See what happens when he finds out how you feel.
2007-03-07 02:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By bf is 21 and it is like that everytime we get together...but we don't live together either...maybe you should talk to him about his behavior...and maybe he will hold back on his friskyness...if that doesn't work...tell him to masturbate a few times a day...that might work.
2007-03-07 02:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by djsbabygirl2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal, at that age usually you can slow him down by talking to him and telling him that you don't want that big of a physical relationship.
If you need some more advice, feel free to email me.
- The Date Doctor
2007-03-07 02:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young men are just like that, teens all the way through twenties. Why is it a bad thing? Have fun with it
2007-03-07 02:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
these are natural symptoms, you should carefully handle the situation always.. even at the age of 21 some hormones in body gets changed which lead to affection in opposite sex etc..
Not in all man it is same thing
2007-03-07 02:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by rockycold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋