Why wont he make out with me? He has ocd. He is a clean freak. When I confronted him he didnt understand. I told him that little pecks arent kisses! He always has an excuse and its killing me. I say we never kiss, and he avoids the topic or denies it. I know hes not cheating because he dosent go anywhere. Someone please help.
2007-03-06 18:14:23 · 11 answers · asked by D C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Idon not want to leave becasue we have a great realtionship otherwise. The only way he does kiss me is after a few drinks when he is relaxed!!
2007-03-06 18:26:04 · update #1
Obssessive Compulsive Disorder is tricky at best... and unfortunately, without therapy, many OCD sufferers continue in their behavior despite their sincere desire to change.
If he is in therapy, you may suggest that you'd like to be involved since you are such a big part of his life... and then you can bring it up with this therapist... if he is NOT in therapy... then you should seriously suggest that he start... for his sake and yours.
2007-03-06 18:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kissing is a physical way of showing affection toward a romantic partner. If you are craving this affection and he is unable to give it due to a disorder, then he needs to get help from a psychiatrist. Perhaps you could go with him?
However, if he is unable to understand your concern, even after you have explained it to him (first make sure you have tried to explain it to him), then it is time to consider a departure from this relationship.
2007-03-07 02:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by shoshana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with m k you must not understand what OCD is honey he cant he may love you but its hard for him to do lots of messy making out like that let him have someone that also has ocd and go find a new guy
2007-03-07 02:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by PyroPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow !!!! so why do you stay. sounds like his "ocd" is off the wall. if you are unhappy now with the relationship it will for sure not get any better long term. the worst part of this is wasting one more day unhappy.
2007-03-07 02:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by cindy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he has a problem , maybe he had a bad experincewith kissing , but what puzzles me is you have been with him for 5 years , i think you should both go to a couple counceling ok
2007-03-07 02:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by nirvan m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. He has OCD. Go find another boy friend.
2007-03-07 02:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. some kinda guy huh..maybe he's just respectful, but not even a kiss??somethin's fishy there girl..maybe he's gay or something. not that i am hoping for him to be gay, but that's what i surmised from your question. try seducing him. if it works, then congratulate yourself. if it doesnt, ask him straight out what's wrong.^^
2007-03-07 02:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by WAHMaholic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pecks are kisses...it just depends on how you go about it...he probably needs to go see a phychologists
2007-03-07 02:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by djsbabygirl2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he this way with you even after you have brushed your teeth?, Tell him "NO SEX" unless he kisses you right
2007-03-07 02:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he just does,nt like to, and frankly I don't think you can change him if he's been like that for five years, either accept or move on,,.................
2007-03-07 02:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by kristy g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋