I'm feeling so insecure, I hate it, I wish I could just be happy... I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 7months and I seem to be finding it hard to trust him, lots has happened to me in the past years, been hurt by guys and my uncle did somat to me which has teared my family apart, and I find it that since that incidence I get very emotional and fear almost everything in my relationships and I worry that something bad will happen or something already bad is happening behind my back... I really hate this, just a few weeks ago I thought I was starting to feel secure for the first time but now all of a sudden I'm back on the same track, my boyfriend is great and all but I can't to talk to him about my insecurity coz he hates thinking that I'm not happy with him or I think the relationship has a problem, so he gets angry and raises his voice when I talk to him about it, he says 'why have u got this stuck in ur head dat I'm gonna cheat on u?!!' please someone help me with my insecurity
2007-03-06 17:51:30 · 7 answers · asked by Sheepless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll tell you from a man's perspective...
If he's not patient with you and doesn't want to sympathize with you about your situation...then he's in the wrong and just being a jerk. He should be the one consoling and catering to you, because after all he was the one who wanted this relationship too.
If he's raising his voice to you it's because he doesn't know how to conversate with you and show compasion.'
Drop him before you see the real jerk in him.
peace baby
2007-03-06 17:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by d_miano81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I will try. First trust is very important in a relationship and it sounds like your boyfriend has given you reasons to doubt this issue with him. If he hasn't then stop this behavior now because this will put a strain on your relationship. You have get over what happen between you and your Uncle because he is not your boyfriend and that is just the way it is. Never stop the communication between you and anyone that you love or care about, but don't nag. I can not help you with your thoughts of insecurity it something that only you can deal with, but I can tell you that with you get these thoughts that you stop and think is your feeling or is the person that you are having these thoughts about actually did something to spur these thoughts. I hope this is helpful to you and the best of luck with you. Try to think positive about people till they prove otherwise, I do.
2007-03-07 02:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by pittcrew20022002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew, I could have quite the convo about that issue. I have had some 1st hand experience in that arena and have some insecurity issues of my own lol. Anyways I think that you should talk with him about it, but do it in a way that wont lead to an arguement. Example... Hey "whoever".. you know I really care for you and I know you care for me, I was wondering if you could help me out with something that has been bothering me. Can we talk for a while and maybe you can give me a shoulder to lean on for a bit". Opening the conversation in a way that asks for his help will immediately tell him your not looking to argue and you might be surprised at how far and deep the convo can go. You may even learn things about yourself you didnt know and he may learn things about himself too in the process.
2007-03-07 01:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by dragoneye814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a test regarding the same with your boyfriend.. just tell him that you are in big trouble and tell him to help to solve that trouble
if he is really with you then he will help him otherwise he will not
this is the solution by which you can able to judge about your insecureness
2007-03-07 01:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by rockycold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry if your boy friend realy loves you he wont cheat on you. just cuz one bad thing happens dosn't mean that you should
not trust your boyfriend. Think about this. the week when you were just doing fine did you trust you bf.
2007-03-07 02:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Salomon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... its called pessimistic thinking. Stop it. Be positive.. life is not that serious. And You will get hurt by someone eventually because everyone will. just like everyone will die.. but you can't spend all your time worrying about it.
2007-03-07 01:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek professional help. This sounds serious.
2007-03-07 01:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Horace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋