My girlfriend of 4 years and I broke up. She has some problems which she needs to address.?

Question

She is very insecure and she feels that she needs to be perfect for anyone to love her. To escape from these fears she binges and purges; she has bulimia. She has jumped from one relationship to the next, never able to be single. She treated me wonderfully, but her sickness caused a lot of problems in our relationship. She would feel depressed, insecure, or feel guilty about binging and purging. Because of this she was often cold, and distant, while still trying to pretend that everything was perfect; I often felt uneasy around her. We talked about her sickness, and how it isn’t getting any better. She decided that she needed to face it alone, to try to gain a sense of empowerment without hiding behind a relationship. She doesn’t know when she will be ready to be in a relationship again. I would like to be her friend, but I miss her badly after we talk. Should I move on, break off contact for awhile, and just take care of myself?

Answer 1

you can do all of it at the same time. make her feel that you're still there for her and ready to help even if she thinks she doesn't need it. and at the same time try to move on and take care of your self!!! she'll deffinitely realize how much you mean to her anyway 4 years was long time relationship and it's not easy to forget....

Answer 2

if you really care you can stand on the side lines, but i think if she isn't getting help to get well you best leave her alone. She can drag you down. I had an addiction so I know how that can hurt people.