Okay, so here's the situation. I just moved to a new school, and I pratically don't know anybody there. It's been a few months and everyone been noticing me as the new guy. However, there's this girl I really like. She's very cute, but she's also sweet, kind, and generous too. A couple of days later after I just moved to my new school, she introduced herself to me, and from that point on, we became friends and acquaintances with one another. I make her laugh and we have fun together. Now, I really like this girl, and I believe she doesn't have a boyfriend, but unfortunately I'm a really shy person. Yes, I know it's pathetic, but I was wondering if anyone has any tips to help me overcome my shyness and ask her out. I want to get to know her better and to hang out occasionally as friends first. I really don't want to mess this up because I don't want her to feel strange or weird if she would thought I was coming on to her as a desperate idiot.Can anyone help me? (Serious answers please!)
2007-03-06 17:27:09 · 12 answers · asked by xcommander2189 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be casual. Ask if she would like to catch the next blockbuster movie, watch a baseball game, or check out the latest CDs in town. Accept any answer. If yes, hurray for you! If no, then ok, maybe next time. If maybe (perhaps she feels awkward going out with you alone), ask her if it is ok to invite two other friends (or your baby brother/sister). When asked often enough and if both of you had a great time, start dropping the friends or baby! You are already dating!
2007-03-06 17:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by amn1717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a huge advantage in that already have a speaking relationship with your hope. Congratulations! In HS I would just develop crushes from afar - a new one each year and didn't have a girlfriend until college. Some of us are slower than others. Eventually I became somewhat less shy. A lesson I found useful was that asking someone out to breakfast or other daytime activity (say a flea market, farmers market, hike) worked out better than the classic meal and a movie date. It takes the pressure off of the end of the "big evening". Do I kiss her or don' I? Do I take her hand or don't I in the dark movie theater? Morning has a friendlier happier energy - night more romantic. I mean romantic is great - don't get me wrong. But if you're feeling shy - take the pressure of yourself and your date and do an activity that begs less or you both. Then after you notice a little more interest and get to know her a little better - ask her on a night time date.
2007-03-06 17:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with telling her you're "desperately crazy about her". OK, Ok, I get the picture. First impressions are the important ones. But, good news, You've already had your first impressions and she's still around IN SPITE of everything you've done.
I don't think you have a problem with her; you have a problem with you. Here's a way to break the ice. Tell her you don't know anyone there (true). Tell her you trust her judgment (true) Ask her if you should ask Sue out. Explain that you are so shy and would have a problem asking her. Ask her if you would be better off with Patty for the first try. Then ask her if she thinks you would be better off asking her out in spite of being shy cause she already likes you.
The cards are on the table then and it is time for her to explain how she sees you. I think you'll do fine.
Worst case is that she just wants to be friends. If you date around then and she sees how you treat your girlfriends, she may change her mind about you.
Love is a Marathon. The winner leads the race in the last inch, but not necessarily the first inch. Never lie to her. That's the ground rule.
2007-03-06 17:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do not you no longer imagine about your self for a minute and picture about your babies who don't have fathers? do not your babies deserve a guy who's a father to them? This looks in reality to be about you getting what you want and has no longer something to do with being a reliable mom to the youngsters you've already got. desiring yet another toddler on your case is loopy and selfish. perhaps you want to make certain what's lacking in your self that makes you want a toddler lady a lot. Being determined about desiring something is a real setup for a huge enable down. Be grateful you're fortunate to have babies.
2016-12-05 08:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like i can't tell you very much besides be yourself around her, you already make her laugh so everything should be fun. Just make sure she WANTS a boyfriend, some girls like being single and just want to have fun. But if you would like to ask her out, i say go for it. The worst she can say is no...right..? But no matter what the answer is, dont let that change what you have together now.
2007-03-06 18:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by SmartBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're already comfortable talking to her as you are clearly friends. Try saying something like "We should hang out after school some day... that is if your boyfriend wouldn't mind". Then she can say something like "I don't have one" and you can say "I though for sure someone as cute as you would have a boyfriend" It sounds corny, but a teenaged chick will totally get all butterfly'ish when you say it to her... And you can roll from there based on her reaction.
I am a sales manager. I always tell my sales team that selling is like dating... Let me tell you this now, too. (A life long lesson) If you don't try because you are afraid to fail you will certainly fail. If you try you have a 50% change of success which are pretty good odds! Go for it!
2007-03-06 17:35:33 · answer #6 · answered by Starlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just ask her to hang out. Don't put so much emphasis on it as being a date. You said you want to get to know her so maybe ask her what fun things there are to do around your new home and then ask her if she could show you around. Don't try and make it like a movie or something but an activity that you would be able to talk to her. From there things will just develop.
2007-03-06 17:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man try to notice if she likes u too or not.. if she just likes u i guess u r the guy u r the one that should make the first move not her and if she treats u as a friend only just keep making her notice that ur nice, sweet, kind, take care of her and making her laugh so.. plz u just need time to think about this situation... take care of urself try to not hurt urself or her.. good luck man and study hard ;o)))
2007-03-06 17:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she did the first move right? then it's for you to do the second one. if your shy to ask her to go out with better to do it with some of your new friends or try to have a party on your house and invite some of them but be the one to pick her on her place..... i'm sure after that you'll get along so much witn other......
2007-03-06 17:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flirt with her in a casual way... nice hair, you smell good, etc. And just take your time and see what she does. Just don't worry so much, it will screw you. Try to relax and remember that she is not the first girl you've been attracted to and she wont be the last.
2007-03-06 17:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋