Why is it that we always want what we can't have??

Question

I have been liking this guy for years already. He finally came around and started calling me. Now I am not interested. Should I pursue it any way. Because of the fact of how long I liked him. Or should I just ignore him.

Answer 1

Have you had this problem with other guys? Because there is a certain complex where (mostly) girls will like the chase more than the catch. There's a certain mystery in somebody who you like who doesn't like you back. It begs questions: "does he like me?" "what's wrong with me?" "is he better than me?" "does he have a girlfriend?" "am I not good enough for him?" etc.
Once he's interested, it's like, "Oh, okay, so he's not too good for me. So he's just average? Ew."

Mystery, dear. That's what some people like. You grow out of it.

Answer 2

if we didn't always want what we couldn't have, there'd be no anticipation, no chase... isn't that what makes it fun?

You should give him a little attention and then take it away.. tease him a little (but not very much or he might become frustrated).

why not reverse the same concept that's bothering you. Make HIM want what he THINKS he can't have (you)... and then when that point comes... give it to him anyways
:)
Go for it!

Answer 3

We always want that we can't have because God doesn't really want anyone to be happy...hahaha. But seriously.. that happens to me too. Once the person becomes available I start wondering if I even want them anymore. hahahahaha

Answer 4

Nah dude, if you don't feel something for him anymore, then why waste your time?... just tell him he's years too late and find a hottie that actually wants you when you want him. ; )

Answer 5

I would say just move on, don't keep stringing him along if you aren't interested.

Answer 6

maybe it was a crush... since you are no longer interested... why push it.

you could be friend though