I was in a very casual relationship with my guy, we live together....we decided to be just friends and now my friend is sleeping with him and I feel greatly disturbed...Its happened b4 with a guy I was "seeing casualy" and after it ended she slept with him also...the difference was that I didnt mind at all....
I have only said when asked about it that its his life to do what he wants with but I dont understand y my friend keeps going after blokes that I have slept with???
and why do I not feel right about it???
2007-03-06 17:21:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I ended both relationships with both guys and she has two guys (Apart from my housemate) on the go atm aswell....she is single and both guys know whats going on..
2007-03-06 17:48:45 · update #1
to top it all off she has now told my housemate that she dosent want a relationship with him because its "too hard" and she dosent want to hurt me! personally I think shes shutting the gate after the horse has bolted......
2007-03-06 17:52:36 · update #2
One word: Competition. She is competing with you and measuring her womanhood against yours. She may have problems meeting men. She is acquainted with your boyfriends so after you stop seeing them she sees them. And she doesn't have to exert the 'energy' to get to know them. It's only natural that it would make you feel the way it does especially since you have developed feelings for someone. The guys you are speaking about bear responsibility also.It's a two way street. Your 'friend's' behavior is rooted in an inferiority complex.
2007-03-06 17:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was your friend she wouldn't ever sleep with anyone you have been with. It is an unspoken code. I think you need to get a new friend and kick him out. Then you need to clean closet from all of your unhealthy relationships. I had to go through the same thing. I just dumped my bf of 7 yrs. I know its hard but in the long run you'll be better off.
2007-03-07 01:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by rm3alford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have feelings for the guys that you slept with or just plain old win-win sexual gratification? If you don't have any feelings, then there's nothing to it and I guess your friend don't either. Just like both of you going to the same hairdresser. If you really have feelings for the guy, dump him and get a better one. I guess he thinks that having sex with anybody is better than none. I don't think he has feelings (or respect) for you or your friend.
2007-03-07 01:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by amn1717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't feel right because that's disrespectful, and it makes you wonder if there was an attraction, or something going on the whole time. Your 'friend' doesn't really seem like a true friend at all.
2007-03-07 01:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What one views as trash can be viewed as another's treasure? Maybe she likes your throwbacks. In any case, maybe you should tell this broad how you feel. If she can't seem to find anyone else other than these guys that you are friendly with maybe that is why she hangs around you.
2007-03-07 01:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just lonely or she wants to make you jealous.
You don't feel right because you slept with that guy too. Its natural human reaction.
2007-03-07 01:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Booyah! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has never heard of the girl code. "If one friend has ever dated a guy he is completely and totally off limits to any other friend as long as they all should live."
2007-03-07 01:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friend to stop ******* the guys you are interested in. It's going to ruin your relationships with guys and your friendship with her.
2007-03-07 01:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't have a back bone !
Tell her it seems to weird that she wants your left overs .Tell her to find her own .
Or Are you being dumped so they can sleep with her ?
2007-03-07 01:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she feels that she needs to compete with you and she feels that all these men are around you not her. she wants to prove at least to herself that she is desired somehow.
for you, you are deep inside feeling that she is up to something or doing this because she feels the strong impression u have on those men..
2007-03-07 01:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋