I told me now exboyfriend that I didn't want to have a n a l s e x because he was pressuring me heavily to do it. Then I stayed over at his house one night because my apartment was flooded. I woke up and he was raping me a n a ll y. Once I told him it was over he went and told his friends that had done that with me and that I wanted him to. So now they are all calling me names and even worse he is being very nasty about it. Even though I've broken up with him, I amhaving a very hard time dealing with this. How should I go about moving on after this? The police can't do anything because it's my word against his. When I first started dating him, he wasn't at all like this, or I wouldn't have dated him.
2007-03-06 17:16:14 · 3 answers · asked by shesadevil82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
something like that takes time and it does take a while but trust me eventually you will dust yourself off and move on
2007-03-06 17:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question is, do you want to deny this ever happened? Can you? If you can't, you have to turn the perception that he's thrown out into his face. Example: If someone comes up to you and brings it up, you can say, "Yeah, and you'll notice we're broken up now. Guess he wasn't very good at it." There's a part of a man that wants to think he's God's gift to women in the bedroom; make sure they're all aware that he is not without giving the gory details. And anyway, if they're friends with him why would you want to have anything to do with them?
Other than that, it's going to take some time and I would suggest you talk to a psychologist to help you sort out your feelings regarding this assault. Good luck.
2007-03-07 01:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by shoujomaniac101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for what happen to you. i would suggest that you get
counseling so that you can deal with it, then you can work your
way to get better. good luck to you. you stay strong.
2007-03-07 01:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋