Male Advice Required - How Not to Scare Him Away by Being Too Eager?

Question

Hi Guys. I met a really great guy recently and I would really like to move things forward into a realtionship.

We have met 4 times so far, 3 at a bar on a just happened to be there at the same time basis and once on an official date. I have played it pretty cool throughout the bar meetings knowing that we would bump into each other again, but when it came to the point where I wasn't sure that we would bump into each other again I left him with my number and told him to call me. Anyway, he did call that night but we didn't arrange anything and then 3 days passed at which point I couldn't wait any longer so initiated catching up for a dessert date, which we did.

The date went well..perhaps a little too well. But he is now going interstate for a couple of weeks and did tell me to keep in touch but we left it all a bit vague.

Is sending him a good luck message after another 3 days and asking him to let me know when he is back ok. Or should I wait for him to make the next move?

Answer 1

Show your eagerness again AFTER he's back.

Let him stew a bit while he's gone, then make up for it by contacting him and making yourself easily available when he's back.

Also respond if he contacts you, of course.

Answer 2

If the date went well... then perhaps you should keep in touch... if he isn't as eager as you are (on a scale of eagerness) then, you probably are barking up the wrong tree anyways!

Answer 3

Go ahead and send him a message. I don't see anything wrong with you making the next move.

Answer 4

Wait for him... if you do all the work he's not gonna do anything. I find myself working harder with girls that challenge me. But I act breezy with the aggressive girls because I know I can have them if and when I want... think about it.

Answer 5

Sorry, I'm a chick.

I think you two need to keep in touch by phone. You can "grow" your "relationship" from afar until he returns.