I'm a senior in highschool... I'm dating a fairly attractive girl, right now we're kind of casual and not really "exclusive" per say... she's an extreme chrstian and I'm not going to have sex with her... even if she wanted to, I'd feel too damn guilty because I know how much her "purity" means to her...
but I sort of want to break up with her since we're not really exclusive...
Lately my friends been a real ****** and he knows it, and his girlfriend wants me... (they wouldn't even be dating if I didn't introduce them to each other) We're both going to colleges far away from home...
Do I sleep with my friends girl and feel a little bit guilty, or leave his girl unsatisfied, and not only feel guilty for that, but also go into college as a virgin and I might not get a chance to be with someone like that.
2007-03-06 17:08:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel so sex deprived and sick of being a virgin that it's rediculous, at the point where it just destroys my self confidence and self esteem, where I constantly get P.o.ed at people and can't even treat people respectfully. I think I'm starting to feel depressed or at least a lethargic "don't care" feeling
also, this girls one of the hottest girls in our school (9.5 out of 10)
2007-03-06 17:10:55 · update #1
Do you really need to ask people to give you answers so that you can solve this problem??
Best of luck!!!
2007-03-06 17:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are playing with fire, and you might get burned. Just think seriously about this. Don't hurt your girl friend, just let her go. Then tell the girl you want to really be with, to end it with her boyfriend. This way you will be free to be together. But if you do this when you are both committed to someone else, then you are just like your best friend. I really think that waiting until you are mature enough to have a serious relationship is okay. Why does every young person today want to be an adult so soon, or rush into this kind of situation? Adult hood is very complicated, and hard. Don't make your college years start out bad either. Finding the right girl does not always happen in high school. Get to know this girl you really like, before giving in to her. Then do the right thing for everyone okay. Life is hard enough, losing friends over these type of incidents, just makes it more harder.
2007-03-06 17:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... read what you wrote "or leave his girl unsatisfied, and not only feel guilty for that"... What The Heck Are You Talking About?
I'd say that maybe you're with this christian girl for a reason... don't overlook fate ... even if you're not meant to be in the long run, you're meant to be right now... it's like this... "she's the light", goals, morals, values... "the "hot girl" is not, because that's all she is... Hott.
Unless your shallow, then go right ahead and do your thang.
2007-03-06 17:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can sleep with her, just first 1) break up with your girlfriend, and 2) get the other girl to break up with your friend. If you don't, then you're an ****** and so is the girl... The only reason you'd want to sleep with her secretly, where both of you were cheating, is cowardice.
Seriously, if you want another girl, you shouldn't be going out with your girlfriend. And if your friend's girlfriend thinks your friend's an ****** and wants to sleep with you, she shouldn't be going out with him. Do it the honourable way and you won't have anything to regret.
2007-03-06 17:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Cheating is never the answer no matter what! Especially with your best friends girlfriend! If you are unhappy in your realtionship then break it off and go find someone else who is NOT your friends girlfriend! Then get professional help for the depression!
2007-03-06 17:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if you're a virgin? Seriously no one gives a sh*t but YOU. You have plenty of time to have sex.. don't rush just because its the COOL thing to do. You should ask that girl if she wants to be exlusive with you before you do anything at least. Good luck.
2007-03-06 17:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you want sex, and your partner doesn't, you need to make a decision. Keep dating her and don't have sex or stop dating her and have sex with someone else.
Don't cheat. Cheaters really suck. And REALLY don't cheat with your friend's girlfriend. When that gets out, you will be considered the lowest of the low. Because you will be.
2007-03-06 17:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have any brains at all you wont cheat on your girl! look yousaid you two arent that serious right? so break up with her high school is all about experimenting with different people anyways. if your friends girl "wants" you then break it off nicely with that other girl and see where it leads with this one. dont ever cheat on someone just cause of their personal/ religeous feelings on sex. or really just period dont cheat. that way atleast you get your dignity and so does she.even if she does get mad at you or upset for breaking up with her she'll live its not the end of the world. just whatever you do dont cheat. that wont help anyone.
2007-03-06 17:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by PyroPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will be happy if you do--not even you. You'll lose your girlfirend and your best friend. Your best friend will lose his girlfriend. The best friend's girlfriend won't be interested in you because she'll realize you don't really care for her, but just wanted to use her. You won't like yourself because you'll realize you're a jerk. You're bound to discover that youj're not a great lover (you say you're a virgin), so you'll be disappointed.
2007-03-06 17:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cheat on your girlfriend; you will hurt her and regret it. Relationships aren't just about sex; and you seem young slow and wait a while, go to college and experience life. Whatever you do don't cheat just for a cheap thrill; it will be unmeaningful, and you will regret it later on in life. Good Luck.
2007-03-06 17:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why did u start going out with ur gf if sex means so much to u? dont be a **** and think that sleeping with ur friends gf is going to make u feel better or that u will feel guilty for not sleeping with her....and how do u know ur friend isnt satisfyin her..
2007-03-06 17:12:45 · answer #11 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋