i have been corresponding with this guy through e-mail for six years. for the first time we met last year. i recently told him i loved him and wanted to know his situation. he said he has been living with a girl for ten years, but they have not slept together in five. he says they no longer love each other in that way and cant decide what to do. we send naughty e-mails, things like that. he said he doesnt know yet if he loves me. that he will need to get to know me more. i think he truly loves the first girl, that he will never love me. i would just like to know others opinion. i love him with all my heart. is there any chance he might love me. is it possible to fall out of love with someone? he is my first love, so i feel very hurt. will i ever win his heart? i doubt it, but what do you think?
2007-03-06 16:45:02 · 12 answers · asked by srsgrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, six years is a long time ,but you only bee talking to email call me old fashion but emailing and being face to face is different .Are sure about how you feel? if you are i don't think he is worth it, think about it he has been talking to you for six years, if he had the slight of feelings for you and wanted a relationship outside of the web he would have at least moved out or made her leave , don't believe that '' i haven't slept with her in 5 years " crap it's BS .Men can be such liers unless his dick is limp, or she just plain busted, there is no way that happened. No sex for 5 years would motivate anyone to get the hell on from a relationship . I think he loves her also and he is just using you as a passtime , maybe he wants to see if you can replace his old girl. Either way he is not worth sticking around i would leave .To answer your questions , Yes it is possible to fall out of love with someone, first love or not move on sweety plenty of fish in the sea trust me ,may take a while but you desrve love like everyone else . Why should you still be trying to win his heart after six years if he wanted you in it he would let you in i mean you can play along with his game but you better not take him seriously he is Bullshiting you .That's what i think not trying to hurt your feelings or anything but the first step is to hear the truth ,beside it is not your fault he is a loser .Hope i helped you make the right decision if anything hope you'll think about it .
2007-03-06 17:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by canielany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all need a broken heart to learn... I say he is lying. He probably doesn't have sex with that other girl... very often. But he still does. He likes the fantast that comes from "phone, e-mail" sex. It is an escape from reality that he enjoys. This man is not looking for a relationship with you. That does not mean he doesn't care about you in the only way he can. But don't expect more than that from him. Also, don't think you can't love more than one person. Anyone who feels that way is wrong. It is truly possible to love multiple people. But why woul dyou want that for yourself? For your life? For your future? Say this guy did go to be with you. How could you ever feel secure with him not doing the same thing to you that he is doing to the other girl. Walk away. Actually run! There are many fish in the sea and more than one that will suit you beyond your wildest dreams. Don't settle for the toad when the prince awaits!
2007-03-07 00:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by Starlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's okay for him to say he doesn't know if he loves you yet. It's good that he WANTS to get to know you better, rather than toss the words around, so feel special for that part!! But within the 6 yrs of e-mailing... did you Know he was living with this chick?... There's not much you can do about what has happened... you either trust him when he says he hasn't slept with her and doesn't love her anymore... or you can accuse him of doing somethin you'll never find the real answer to. I believe you will win his heart. Just be yourself all the time, and let him take his time to fall in love with you. : )
2007-03-07 00:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. He's just playing with you and your feelings. There are plenty of such guys. By playing a little hard to get now that you are hooked, you will be so willing to give him everything the next time you meet. Don't fall for this trap. Even if he is not such a guy, he has been going behind his girlfriend's back to get you. This is call cheating and when he has got you, you may find him going behind your back for the next chick (which you may not know that he is already currently online with).
There are many other genuine guys out there. Mix more often and you will soon meet someone more deserving your first love!
2007-03-07 00:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by amn1717 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for some people to establish a relationship via emails/internet...although it is obvious that you have fallen in love with this guy. In additiona to that, some people who have been together for so many years establish a "confort blanket" which makes it harder to break up with someone. Honestly, I don't think you'll be able to win his love....where does he live...i'm assuming he lives far away from you right? A similar situation happened to me a few years ago...A girl and I were corresponding via email and phone for approx 5 / 6 years but never really met. She kept telling me she loved me but I just couldn't come to say that....it was difficult for me to have a relationship that way....we ended up calling and talking less and less until we finally stopped altogether. Anyways, whatever you do, good luck, and smile, life is way too short to be miserable.
2007-03-07 00:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. I think that if he lives with another girl that you should pursue other interests. Guys will tell you anything and they bullshit a whole lot. They are not as comfortable with telling the truth as females would be. It seems as if the guy may have some denial issues going on. But, that is not your problem. You sound like a sweet girl, but you are setting yourself up. Chances are if he is doing it while living with her, that he will do the same thing behind your back. Why is he still living with her anyway if he is a grown and mature responsible man? Something seems fishy?
2007-03-07 00:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being that you have only been in contact through email i would say that in all honesty you are not in love with him, just the thought of him....if that makes sense, you want something that wasnt there.....give it time meet him a few more times exchange phone-numbers and thwen see if anything should come of it before deciding that you love him.....for all you know whilst he has been emailing you he may well have been emailing others, i know that may hurt to hear but its true...dont give your heart up to the idea of someone, however long you have been emailing them....good luck and i hope it works out for you
2007-03-07 00:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by deni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a fantasy you cant love someone who you have only met once its lust
2007-03-07 00:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see him correctly. He says he doesn't love the other one just to string you along. Don't let him get away with it. Please stop sommunicating with him. It is a loss for you. Join the club.
2007-03-07 00:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by dearborne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's in love with that other girl.
2007-03-07 01:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by kevo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋