this is what i was trying to ask earlier...how long is too long to date a person without a commitment?
2007-03-06 16:22:53 · 23 answers · asked by nappy_starr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long is determined by your commitment to wait. The answer is you will wait till you come to the point where you will examine your life and say "What are the chances this guy is going to stay with me forever"? And believe it or not...you will know the answer. He may be a great guy and he may treat you right but you will know if his feelings for you go that deep...now think about that for a moment. that deep...they have to go that deep for one human to commit ...seriously commit to another for the long haul. And at some point you will realize if he will eventually come around or you will realize he isn't and at that point it serves you no purpose to stick around on the hope that he will change. At some point you will need to realize that if its not him and you are looking for something long term then its time to look elsewhere. Hey...and if thats what happens..its all good...you will find someone that will commit because he feels it that deep too...Good Luck!
2007-03-06 16:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by chcman74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the guy you're dating shares the same values as you do, where 'no commitment' is concerned, then just take it one date at a time. When you start to feel like this guy is wanting something more, then make it clear to him where you stand, and that you want to keep the relationship open, because you're simply not ready to settle down, or go for a long term relationship.
I think it really depends on both of you, though.
There's no real 'set number' of dates you can go on before it becomes too long, but, you have to pretty much play it by ear, and see where it goes from there.
As long as you communicate this with the guy you're dating, right away, and make it known that you're dating other guys, and want to keep it casual, then there should be no problems.
2007-03-07 00:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your idea of a commitment? Even though I have had relationships in the past, I have decided that I am not sleeping or shacking up with anyone who is not serious enough to put a ring on my finger and be ready for marriage. I have had a relationship for 5 years and that was my limit. I have no room in my life for anyone's indecisiveness. When you are single and don't know if you will remain that way, I feel you have enough decisions to make about your daily and future well being, than to be worried about why someone can't commit to you. If it is meant to be and that is your true mate to be, there should not be these kind of worries. Communication might not be clear.
2007-03-07 00:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant put a time limit on a person. It isn't fair. If a person goes into a relationship and was told " you have 12months to make a commitment to me" most relationships would be lasting 11 months and 29 days!!!!
It depends on what the other person wants as well not just you. That is selfish.
2007-03-07 00:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it gets to the point where you cant deal with it without a commitment, then thats too long. age is a big factor. if your young, it could be a while before you want a commitment because you may still want to check out your other options. if your older, you could be quick about it with no real reprocussions if you have completly checked out financial/living/work situations. although no matter what age you were, say a guy told you that he was going to marry you and its been a year since then, and you still dont have a ring...id be a little annoyed then.
2007-03-07 00:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated for more than 4 years, but up front we both knew there was no chance for the relationship. We stayed together because we respected each other, the sex was good, we were interested in each other's opinion, and we stayed friends, for 25 years. She found the right one, I never did.
There was one thing she did I couldn't forgive her for and couldn't marry her because of. We both knew what it was. She stood up to me and I stood up to her. It was a point neither of us would budge from. So, no commitment.
If the only reason you date is to grab the gold ring, you'll make some lawyer a rich man/woman, Look for the "right" one. And don't stand in the way of some one finding joy.
2007-03-07 00:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is up to the person and just how long you are willing to take crap with out committment. some people catch on quick and some waste years of their lives on relationships that are going nowhere. I would say that if you are dating some one seriously for more than 2 years and no mention has been made, well I think you have your answer.
2007-03-07 00:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if after the third date he doesnt want 2 commit then i think he aint gonna commit. however time wise depend ing on how much time u spend with him if u have 3 dates in one month and he doesnt wanna commit then i dont think he is going 2. hope i answered your question.
2007-03-07 00:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What constitutes a commitment? Exclusivity? This is fairly easy as long as you are willing to be used. Friends with benefits anyone?
2007-03-07 00:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by jjjjj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to the individual. Every relationship is different because different individuals make up each relationship. So, when one of them doesn't want to wait any longer, however long that is, then that would be when it's been long enough.
2007-03-07 00:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋