Ok, so my friend and i are both freshmen in HS, and yesterday, she told me that she thought she was pregnant. I had been noticing some of the signs, but I thought it was just a mood issue. She told me she won't go to her parents until after she knows for sure, and that she is scared to buy a pregnancy test. I offered to buy it for her, but she told me she couldn't let me do it. So as a guy, what can I actually do to help her?
2007-03-06 16:20:55 · 20 answers · asked by mcricktrix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For clarification, I'm not the father, and I don't actually know who he is.
2007-03-06 16:31:57 · update #1
well, heres my area of expertise, my HS was teen pregnancy central haha. basically all you can do for now is talk to her whenever she needs it. i realize you may not be the father, if the father is willing to help out, thats great, but if not, please dont leave her to deal with this herself. she will probably yell at you and cry at you, etc. but just remember its her hormones making her emotional and she doesnt mean (most) of it.
also find out why you cant buy her the test. the earlier she knows the better in case 1) she decides to abort or 2) so she can start having a healthy pregnancy.
2007-03-06 16:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i must say this is a very tough issue... pregnancy at such a hard thing to go through, espcially as a freshman in high school. well as a guy there isnt too much u could do. just always be by her. dont always ask her how she is, or bother her about the subject. Just try to keep things light around her, and be her "ray of sunshine" a nice friend she can turn to and not be bothered by the thought of pregnancy 24/7. because i am sure there is enough of that going on in her head.
2007-03-06 16:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by loverly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her the pregnancy test. It will definitely make her feel better. Just go get it and bring it to her. And whether or not shes pregnant you should suggest that she go to planned pregnancy. She can go there for free. And without any parental consent. They will give her condoms, birth control, and some good advice. And most of all you should be there for her no matter what. Thanks for being such a good friend!!
2007-03-06 16:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by beyondthelimit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just buy the test, but don't be spreading her business. If indeed she is, I would suggest her going to the church or a community clinic where her parents don't have to be immediately notified, but so she knows her options and can learn about the effects that her not getting the proper care can do to her or her baby. If you are truly her friend, the best and most important thing you can do is LISTEN and not be JUDGEMENTAL but SUPPORTIVE.
2007-03-06 16:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by mackdingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly men have no say in what happens to a fetus inside a woman anyway. Reguardless of the result, you have no say in what happens until she has birth and thats if she does. Just be there for her and always offer to help in any way you can. It makes you a good person and a good guy no matter what the outcome.
2007-03-06 16:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depending on the situation I would strongly suspect that at some point she is going to need someone to just hold her...there will be tears. And the strongest man in the world is the guy who is there for a woman during her most tenderest moment. Can you be that guy?
Good Luck!
2007-03-06 16:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by chcman74 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually the only thing you can do is, nothing. Sooner or later she would have to deal with this herself because there's no way her parents ain't gonna notice it; just be a friend and support her in what you can.
2007-03-06 16:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by bravo20212000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the wonderful friend you are. Listen. She will figure out everything as she decides what to do and maybe you can help her with all of that later. In the meantime, be her rock and good listener. You are precious....
2007-03-06 16:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Melody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
support her... with your words and you actions... be a friend and just be there... she will need you to lift her up when she is down...
good luck...
and i am sure there is more but that wouldn't be my place to say, i wouldn't have experince but my experince tells me that support is always needed, and at that age her life is changing as is, excluding her possible pregnancy, and if she does have a child it will really change, and she is going to need some stability... also she is scared, so she needs someone who can show and tell her what to do so that she can be confident to do it...
again good luck...
-Todd
2007-03-06 16:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by todd w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her to talk to, you are both SOOOO young, if she is pregnant, this is going to be a very traumatic time, i'm sure her parents won't be pleased. Hopefully she isn't pregnant and she won't make the same mistake again......
2007-03-06 16:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by rocketgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋