2007-03-06 15:54:47 · 13 answers · asked by Fenya 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
For some reason, I could sense that the person was not sincere even though his body language told me that he's sincere. Is there something deeper than behavioural response that I am looking for? I don't really hold a grudge against him so I can let it go even though his apology wasn't sincere. But, I'm just trying to find out what the problem is cos' by right, he did the correct thing by apologising. What more do I want from this person? How did I sense his insincerity? This is intriguing.
2007-03-06 17:11:04 · update #1
Sometimes it is best to keep the peace by being civil. It's much better when an apology is sincere, but sometimes it is given so that people can move on. That is not always a bad thing.
2007-03-06 16:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by callmeplayfair 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the sincerity comes AFTER we do the right thing. Perhaps he said he was sorry because he knew it was the right thing to do, even though he didn't feel sorry yet. Your forgiveness is one sure way to make him feel it. Accept the apology at face value, and let him worry about his own feelings. After all, the apology was for his benefit, not yours. Forgiveness is a benefit to you, not him.
The proof of that is in the fact that you didn't accept the apology as sincere. Whatever he did, his apology didn't fix it. Now, can you just accept that he screwed up, and forgive him even without his apology?
2007-03-07 00:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I understand where your going with this... saying I'M SORRY has lacked almost all meaning. I called my phone company and the service rep said they were sorry 12 times in the 15 minutes we were on the phone fixing some issues. That is just condescending at that point.
If you really do offend, hurt, miss interpret or something that actually causes real harm then yes the words should be spoken and your medicine taken. LOL but I think you know as well as I do that no one wants to take their medicine for the issues they cause.
2007-03-07 00:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is offensive and you are offended, then what you really want is an apology. I have done things that I wasn't sorry about, but if another person was offended I would apologize, saying it precisely in that manner. I apologize. It didn't necessarily mean I was sorry, I just offered the apology to sooth the situation for the offended party.
2007-03-14 22:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I think deep in your heart, you are still bitter and have not forgiven him. Hence, even though you accept his apology as a proper civil expression, somewhere in your heart, what he did warranted more profuse apology. The thing to do now? Let it go and just hope he will not repeat the offense. The wound you still feel about his ineffective apology will surely wane. As it has been said in the Holy Book, "Hatred stirs strife but love covers all offenses." Just let it go and move on as if nothing untoward ever happened.
2007-03-07 05:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by ari-pup 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people can probably relate to this same dilemna. Perhaps you are expecting more than the person in question is capable of offering. Or perhaps you are interested in this person, relationship wise. And was annoyed with any possibility of imperfection in his character. Or perhaps you yourself are a very honest and sincere person, and expect the same from all others. Or perhaps he really had to go to the bathroom, and you were holding him up..lol.
2007-03-13 01:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by larry m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at some time or another, we experienced having doubts with the sincerity of a person. sincere apology or not, accept it and let him be. you have a better things to do...
2007-03-13 23:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by ilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People exude their true intentions. You were able to pick up on it. Perhaps even though you thought his body language said one thing, you were really picking up on what he truly meant. Let it go and recognize him for who he really is...an insincere liar. Or if you really want, confront him. Just do whatever feels right.
2007-03-12 12:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by redwinegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would accept the apology and if there is more to it what ever he or she did could happen again if they were insincere in their apology,time will be your answer.
2007-03-14 17:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them that you think it was an insincere apology.
2007-03-07 00:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋