single mom of three awesome boys (all under the age of 6) any suggestions about how to change "father/son" conversations into "mother/son" conversations. (books, websites, lpersonal experiece, etc.) any help would be appreciated.
2007-03-06 15:53:57 · 11 answers · asked by MaMaMiLaJo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi there
I was a single mum of 4 boys (all under 4 at the time) and I would just make activities about doing things girls and boys could do together.
The eldest was not quite 4, next was 15 months and twins were newborn.
If there was a father/son thing we would talk about how to make it a mum/son one.
example.. fathers day.. I made it sons day. So I would make a special brekky and I bought the boys all a small gift each for being "the worlds best sons".
example.. the chain came off the eldests bike.. I got to try putting it back on and I asked for his input (even though I knew)..that was a manly thing he did LOL..
I now have a wonderful husband and 5 sons and a teeny little daughter.
Its not easy and I admire what you do.
Sorry for not being much help.
2007-03-06 16:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by who_me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand your question correctly but I will answer it the way I am reading it. Conversations will only become gender biased (for lack of a better term) if you make them that way. Just be open to answering any question honestly and if you don't know the answer say that and offer to do some research or better yet do the research together. As long as you start an open, ask anything dialogue young they will keep coming and asking you regardless of whether or not it seems to be a "father/son" question
2007-03-07 00:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by purplecyw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Father of five sons. (18, 16, 36months, 18months, one boy in the womb, due in a couple of weeks)
I wish I could help you. Perhaps you have a good male friend or relative. I have learned that the relationship my sons have with me is as equal as the one they have with their mothers (two oldest live with me, but have a different mom from the last three) All I can say is that you don't need to be a dad. You need to be a mom. Involve them in activities with male role models and they will absorb enough of the paternal needs to allow you to do your wonderful job as a mother.
2007-03-07 00:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Randall A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy do I feel for you. You need to pat yourself on the back for being such a strong single woman. I hope that their father is in the picture because they will need some kind of male role model. No matter how hard you try you are still a woman and they do need a man to relate to. You can participate in sports with them and teach them to respect women and also that moms can be strong and discipline them.
2007-03-07 00:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are lucky that they are still small now. starting now keep the communication completely open. make sure that you are very open with them. ask them questions - don't say, "is there anything you want to know?" or "is there anything you might want to talk about?" instead just start the conversation or you start wtih something that they might wonder.
if you get all stressed out and nervous over these topics they will pick up on it and feel uncomfortable too. keep it simple, no big deal - we are family - we can talk about anything with each other.
good luck. SD
2007-03-06 23:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get right down in the floor with my 5 year old son and play cars with him and with is dump trucks. I will play playstation with him and i know he loves it. We do read books together. His latest one is "Green eggs and ham", i have read it a few times to him and now he is reading it back to me. He is in kindergarten. Just talk to them about boy things and just play with them when they ask or even before they ask.
2007-03-07 04:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the Mama, but ALWAYS their 1st friend. Just talk and have fun. Let them know that they can tell you anything, no matter how embarassing. My 40 year old is still my best friend. We talked about everything, especially girls, and we still do. Respect yourself and they will respect you.
2007-03-07 02:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by somepurpose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have rased my boys on my own and understand its hard as a women to do somethings with they and to talk to them about some topics
i just createed a loving trusting relationship with my boys so that they would know they can talk to me about anything
2007-03-07 01:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be straight forward and honest about everything...Don't ever lie to them...I resented my parents for lying to me about some of the most stupid things. Be understanding esp. when they get into school!!!! Thanks!!!
2007-03-07 00:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by ximxca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I ADMIRE U! THATS A TOUGH JOB YOU'RE DOIN!
SHOWING INTEREST IN STUFF THEY LIKE SHOULD HELP
2007-03-07 02:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by tupac4evaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋