I am 17, my baby's daddy is 21 and the baby is 6 months. I know I can move out, but I don't know what to do so I am not considered a runaway. How do I get consent? Also, would making the dad my legal guardian an option?
2007-03-06 15:32:53 · 24 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get married and solve all the problems at once...in most states you can get married at 16 without consent.
2007-03-06 15:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋
I'd wait and try and gain the support of your parents before doing anything. You were obviously very young when you got pregnant and you and your boyfriend should really try and prove that you are responsible adults to your family before making the move. I would be more than upset if a 20/21 year old knocked up my 16/17 year old daughter and would be expecting a lot of grovelling from this man. It is legal to marry or move with the consent of your parents but make sure that you get the consent first. If you cut the ties with them you will regret it in later life.
2007-03-06 16:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by SR13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You ‘know you can move out’? Not if you live in the U.S. unless you have parental permission or you’ve been emancipated. Emancipation is not going to happen. No judge in any state is going to emancipate a minor so she can shack up with her adult boyfriend (even if they have a child together). And no judge is going to give an adult man legal guardianship over his minor girlfriend.
If you runaway, you can (and will--especially if your parents pitch a big enough fit) be picked up and brought back home, and Boyfriend can be charged with harboring a runaway, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, custodial interference, and maybe other things too. And your parents can get a restraining order against him legally requiring him to stay cease all contact with you.
Either get your parents permission, or stay at home.
And by the way, Kathy is wrong, A minor cannot get married without parental permission or court approval (good luck trying to get a court to grant you permission to marry against your parents wishes—the chances of that happening are about ten-thousand to one).
Chester is wrong too. A 17-year-old is a minor in every state, and therefore their parents get to decide where they live.
Tee is wrong too. Where are these people getting their information?! Giving birth does NOT emancipate a minor in any state. A minor parent has the right to make decisions regarding their child, but that is the extent of their ‘emancipation’. The minor parent is still subject to the control and supervision of *their* parents.
2007-03-06 15:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are British no one can stop you as you become legally able to leave home without parental consent at 16. Although you need parental consent to marry up until 18, when you reach your majority. I can't give you an answer for other countries, so could you please state what country you live in when asking these questions. This community covers the whole world not just your own country.
2007-03-10 10:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by selchiequeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all depends on what state you live in. most states won't let you get married until you are 18 and in most states emancipation would take to long to process unless you could prove abuse or something in an emergency for you and the baby.
moving in with the baby's father could be more of a hassle than you think. as others have said the father/boyfriend could be in for a lot of hurt from the law if your parents raise enough hell with you still being a minor.
do you have a job? is the baby's father mature and responsible enough to take care of you and your baby.
think about it very hard before you make any more rash decisions about moving out. seriously , life is not a bowl of cherries and i would hate to see you and your child get hurt in any way shape or form. as far as making the baby's father your guardian , very highly not going to happen unless the judge needs some quick crack money.
biggest thing , think before you leap.
2007-03-06 15:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by don m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound really harsh, but you need to really think about giving your baby up for adoption. You have created a really unstable situation for that child and the best thing is to give it to a responsible adult married couple that truly wants a baby and can't have one.
That would be incredibly mature and responsible of you and would be the very best thing for your baby and a sign that you TRULY love him/her. You could write a letter saying how hard it was and how much you loved him/her and hopefully someday you will get to meet and say it in person.
This would really be the very best thing for all of you, and even though you would be sad and miss the baby, you could be proud of yourself for finally making the right decision and sacraficing your feelings for the future life of your child. You could then go back to school and concentrate on being the kid you are and start over, don't have premarital sex again (!) and wait for the right person to marry after you have finished school.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-03-06 19:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you oughtta just be glad that your parents didnt have your bf thrown in jail when they found out a 20 year old got their 16 year old daughter pregnant......and KP is the only answerer that knows what shes talking about i think ...you are not emancipated just because you have a child........your parents income will count against you for any kind of public assistance unless you become emancipated. you are still a child and if you run away and move in with your bf since hes an adult he could be charged with alot of crimes...also unless you are paying rent and utilities to your parents.and buying everything for your baby yourself which i highly doubt......do you have any idea how much that baby has been costing your parents for the last 6 monts......and are you ready to take that on yourself at 17?
2007-03-06 16:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by CRmac 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a child with him have you asked your parents? That is the first thing I would do. Second, do you plan on marrying your baby's father? Can he support you and your child? He is good to both of you? I think you both really need to talk this over with your parents. Otherwise, look on line what it takes to be immancipated in your state.
2007-03-06 18:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you are 18 you are on your own to make your own mistakes and so far it looks like you are doing a bang up job of it
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if you have a job you can imancipate yourself. if not get a job. if your parents want to say you are a runaway they can go to court and brand you a deliquent that will take time and you will probably be 18 by then anyway.
keep up the good work
2007-03-06 15:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything rash, first think....Can your bf support you both? and a baby too?
Who will care for the baby when you work?
Marrying him would be rash and perhaps you would end up with a divorce, but if you think that it will last, try it.
Life changes after a baby and you never know what your bf will do...
2007-03-06 15:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once u have a child u are considered an emancipated minor. hope u are able to support yourself. please dont depend on your childs father totally. at least ur parents havent put u out.. i know that ur probably in a rough transition where they are still treating u like a "child"...so dont prove it to them by "running away". You should be focused on your baby and getting yourself prepared for the future. Talk to ur parents and they may help u organize and achieve the goals u want..( school , career , moving)....i was 21 when i had my son and married but i still appreciate and love what my mother did for me as a new mother. nothing beats family.......anyway take it easy lil mama
2007-03-06 16:01:58 · answer #11 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋