My EX told me that he never loved his ex (the relationship right before ours) -- and they lived together for 4 years! How could he have never been in love with her (cmon, 4 years?!)? I should've seen that as the biggest RED flag ever (but I didn't). Before her, he said he never had a relationship that lasted more than 3 or 4 months. I was with him for nearly two years, and he never once said he loved me. I know now that he didn't. What is wrong with this guy? Seriously, what do you guys think is psychologically wrong with him? Looking for real answers.... ;-)
2007-03-06 15:25:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are never able to connect with other people in a deep emotional sense. Perhaps its due to abandonment and/or rejection as a child or due to something that happened as a result of an early relationship.
He basically told you up front that he would not love you by telling you that he never loved his ex girlfriend after four years. There may not be anything wrong with him or he may have some sort of personality disorder.
But why do you care right now? Actually, I know that you probably want a reason why he couldn't/wouldn't love you for the sake of closure. Take this the object lesson that it is: When people show or tell you who they are...believe them!
2007-03-06 15:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be about anything. Doesn't matter what's wrong with him. You need to be asking yourself some tough questions. Like why did I put up with that for so long? Knowing what specifically is wrong with him won'y make you feel any better about yourself.
You might need to focus on yourself for awhile... improving your career and spending quality time with people who are important to you for the right reasons (i.e. old friends, family) might do wonders for your own sense of personal worth. Once you realize you deserve more, it just might come to you. Even if it doesn't, you are better off as a strong person who is single than as a weak person in a croppy relationship.
If any of that hurt, I didn't intend for it too, but if you soften these things too much they become meaningless.
You need to ask yourself some tough questions.
2007-03-06 15:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by johnnybassline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for two and half years and when it ended my wife told me that she had never really loved me. A year later, I can honestly say that I didn't love her either. We may have cared about eachother and been really good friends but we did not love one another. I believe that it is possible that he may have thought that he was in love but when he realized that he wasn't he either stayed in so that he wouldn't hurt her, or he stayed in because it was just easier then breaking up and finding somebody else. Or he is the kind of person that doesn't like to be alone.
2007-03-06 15:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is totally incapable of having a relationship. He does not know how to commit.
My ex-husband told me one night that he did not love me and never did actually. He did not know how to have a relationship. I found that out too late. it sounds like all your guy really wants is a woman to make him look good and not one to make him feel good. Believe me your are so much better off.
2007-03-06 15:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is basiclly an animal giving way to animal desires with no attatchment element there . I would think that nature will not provide an animal type like that with a child just be thankful he did not leave you with one. There are many many real men out there for you good luck.
2007-03-06 15:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible he didnt love her....he was probably using her like he does all woman. he doesnt have enough respect for woman as a whole and will probably continue to just use them....i think its disgusting the way some men( not all) use woman this way....good thing u werent the one with him 4 yrs....take care
2007-03-06 15:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
subject about men... how many days do you have to discuss this? Maybe he is the type that cant commit to a girl, uses her then goes on to another one. There are some guys that can't/won't get attached.
2007-03-06 15:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be still sorting out what love actually is. Some people are like that-- they starve themselves of emotions and are kind of frugal with giving love away.
2007-03-06 15:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by mattfz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be a narcissist or a sociopath.
Narcissists can only love themselves and sociopaths are incapable of loving or empathizing with others.
2007-03-06 15:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by ~Christine~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
or...maybe he just didn't love either of you. i mean it sounds harsh...but i give him props for not throwing the word around. how great will that be when he finally says it to a girl, he saved it for her...i think that's amazing.
2007-03-06 15:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋