When during a wedding ceremony is the unity candle usually lit? Who lights it? Aren't there some that have the bride and groom light it and some that have the mothers light it? What have YOU seen or done?
2007-03-06 15:12:00 · 6 answers · asked by slap_shot69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The ONLY way I have ever seen it done is to have the mothers light one candle each after they are escorted down the aisle and before they take their seats. The two outer candles will burn during the vows, then usually during a song, the couple will join hands, walk over to the candle and each will take the candle their mother lit, and at the same time join the flames together and use it to light the larger candle. This signifies the two of you becoming one!
As I said, this is generally done during a song or musical interlude. This is also a time that they give the mothers a flower (if you choose to do this!)
This is how we did ours and how I have always seen it done!
If the mother isn't available, as my brother in laws case, he asked his aunt to light it in her place (he was an only child, or he would have had a sister do it)
2007-03-06 17:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mothers usually light the individual candles in the beginning before the bride even walks out. The toward the end of the ceremony after vows and such the bride and groom walk to the unity candle, usually song playing in the background and they use the candles their mothers lite and lite the unity candles and blow out the singles. Usually this is followed by a prayer, you may kiss the bride and I give you Mr & Mrs!!!!! Hope this helps. The knot.com gives a lot of wedding help and advice!!!
2007-03-06 23:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by tiger4mel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time the mothers light the two pilar candles before the wedding. Usually they are escorted down to the alter, light them, then are seated. Then, after the vows (I believe), the bride & groom light their larger center candle together with the small candles, then blow out their own candles. I've often seen a song played during this point. I've also just seen the candles lit already, the mother's didn't do it. If a mother is unable, another family member close to you can do it. It's really your choice.
2007-03-06 23:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by layla983 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mothers like the two side candles when they walk in during the processional. The couple lights the big middle candle with the two side candles sometime during the ceremony. When during the ceremony is really up to the couple. I'm getting married in 6 1/2 months and the way I've laid out my ceremony is we light the candle after the marriage vows and before the ring vows. But it's totally cool to do it anytime during the ceremony.
2007-03-06 23:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have usually seen the bride and groom light it as a symbol of two separate lights becoming one, its usually done after the vows. You could symbolically have your families (moms and dads together light it as two families joining, but if there is any tension such as divorce or the families not really getting along its much better to just have the bride and groom do it.
2007-03-06 23:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Ive been to a couple of wedding and they did them at different times. So I guess that it all depends on when you want it done. I know at my wedding that we are going to light the candles after we put on the rings
2007-03-06 23:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by pecarican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋