Ive been dating my girl for 15 months, and in that we have had very little sex. I love her to death, we moved and have our own apartment. IN the first 12 months we had almost no sex whatsoever. She told me that in her past relationship she wanted sex 2-3 times a day. But now when it comes to sex with me she only wants it once a week. This coming from the girl that wants to marry me. I'm concerned that I don't turn her on. She mentioned that i'm to big for her, and that she gets sore some times, but I don't know. Please help!
2007-03-06 15:07:56 · 7 answers · asked by Diesel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something smells bad here in Diesel land.. She told you (you don't know this is true) that in her past relationship she wanted sex two or three times a day. But she has lived in your apartment for a year and you have only had sex about 12 times!!! I've never met a woman... and I've met quite a few that goes from a sex goddess to a nun. It's just not human nature.
You really need to talk to her and get this figured out. Her statement about her prior relationship could have been there just to make you jealous. Let's assume for a moment it's true... and when she depriving someone that she wants to marry the same joy? The she feel guilty about what she did before and feels wild sex is only for singles and when you're going to get married it has to be "normal" (their deftly people that feel this way)?
The excuse is your too big.... I'm sure she knew that before she moved in. That is rarely ever a turnoff. Okay she said she is sore sometimes. That could put her off a bit. Get some silicone based lubricants like ID Millenium (DrugStore.com). These lubricants are extremely slippery and do not break down and wear out like water-based lubricants. Condoms and long sexual activity can certainly irritate any women. So you need to take your this issue so you can rule it out as a problem.
Don't even consider marriage until you're both on the same sexually plateau. You're always been a have your ups and downs but you two are way too far apart at this point.
Mark
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2007-03-07 14:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is on birth control her libido may have dropped. Nevertheless, she may want you to be more romantic and alluring. Give her feet massages, rub her neck & back, give oral when she least expects it. . .some women just need that nudge. She may not want to ask for it, so use that male instinct and light some candles. Try little romantic gestures (i.e. roses when she gets home from work, candies delivered to her job, buy cheap little gifts at target you know she needs or wants).
I'm not telling you to be superfical and just spend money. . .but a woman has to know u really care sometimes and you aren't just using her for half on the rent/utilities and sex.
Come on, spice it up! :-)
2007-03-06 15:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Psalms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diesel,
I dunno...your girlfriends complaints may be legit, but it kinda bugs me that she's gone from (your observation) wanting sex 2-3X/week to virtually nonexistent in the past 12 mos., to her saying that once a week is plenty...something isn't quite adding up here.
There are many things that can cause her drop in libido. Depression, stress and hosts of other problems may be manifesting itself in less desire for sexual activity.
If it were me...I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Though 15 mos. wouldn't be devastating (for me) if it ended, I would ask her what's going on. I dunno...something tells me that there's more to this story.
2007-03-06 15:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
USE protection. do no longer act anxious! Have an "i have been given this" body of ideas do not talk over with a lot, only start up kissing her even as she receives there to get issues warm. Lay her on the mattress, lay severe of her, and something will come from there. do exactly no longer ACT anxious! it truly is a large turn off.
2016-12-05 08:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by haltom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too little sex? I dunno, don't girls adore big cocks? if you're big, you should be getting oral from her 24/7, and you don't actually have to penetrate her to sensualize yourself and her; just rub her clit with your glans; how big is her butt-some people have a taboo against it, but anal might be your only hope! besides, is she even hot? if not, dump her and move on. her lack of sexual enthusiam could mean she's found a (in her eyes') better man.
2007-03-06 16:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take your time. You need to make sure nothing's wrong. Years.
2007-03-06 15:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im with Wolfsberg i would sit her down and talk to her about it and tell her that it bothers you.
2007-03-06 15:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by TCUhornfrog87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋