My son's father's girlfriend says he wants nothing to do with my son, should I believe it?

Question

I'm not a bad person, but I feel he thinks I am...the father of my child. I just want to talk but I've only spoken to his gf. She says he doesn't want anything to do with us, my son and I. Need advice. Should I go after him for child support or wait for him to come around? So complicated. My son is 2 years old and well I fear he may decide to come after him. How does sole custody work?

Answer 1

Go for the sole custody and collect the money you deserve to raise your son. He will say he wants nothing to do with the boy just to not pay support. It is a poor excuse and your son deserves better.

So sorry to hear you are in this situation. Hope it works out. Don't fight about it in front of your son...give him a chance to be a kid.

Answer 2

I've seen this problem so many times, were 1 parent doesnt think that its right to ask the other parent for child support and rather raise the child themselves. What i would strongly recomend is that you make him pay child support because he is the kids father and should help raise him and eventhough he wont be there he could give you money so you can buy what he needs and wants. It will help you financially and not making him pay child support is something that you will regret when your child has grown up. If you need the money do it for sure and if you dont need the money still do it because its never to early to start saving for your childs college education.

sole cusody is where 1 parent has total control of the child and the other parent just pays child support, if the father doesnt want nothing to do with your child you should get sole custody oh him and make him pay child support.

i hope i was some help.

Answer 3

Okay, wow, this is complicated.
First of all, you shouldn't worry about custody. Generally, the courts will always allow a kid to stay with the mom, unless the dad of the kid has a really strong case that you would be a drug-addict, alcho or for some other reason you couldn't take care of the kid as well as him and his girlfriend.
You should definitely get childsupport.You are entitled to it. After all, it takes 2 people to make a kid, why should only the woman be stuck with the costs. If he doesn't want to take responsibility, there may be some nasty court stuff, like paternity tests etc. Just stay strong and remember, your son deserves the money so you need to go after it for him
good luck

Answer 4

If what your ex's girlfriend says is true, you MUST petition the court for sole, primary custody. Without it, you will have to involve him in all decisions--including legal, medical, educational, everything. At that point, the court will impose child support on your ex unless he signs over all parental rights. If he does so, then you'll have your answer. Also, once you have sole primary custody it would be illegal for him to visit with your son without you present.

I don't know if what the woman says is true. However, you need to take steps to protect yourself and your son if such is the case, and a custody agreement is a surefire way to figure out exactly where he stands.

Answer 5

first, get child support. do not wait for him to come around beacuse he got a scandolous female posioning his mind against u. He will not be able to take him from u unless he can prove that u are an unfit parent. u have the right to child support without the fear of someone taking ur child. As long as u are doing ur job as a mother take him for all that he has, but he will get visitation if he wants it. then u got to deal with "who" will be around ur child. If ur son talks well then i wouldnt worry. (So he can tell if that "girlfriend" is mistreating him) Just do whatever u feel is in the best interest of your son.

Answer 6

You shouldn't trust her to give you the whole story as she has plenty to gain from keeping the two of you apart (she may worry about you getting back together). If you want to know for sure, you will have to talk to him. As for custody and child support, you will have to speak with an attorney in your area to find out exactly how to go about it as laws differ by states. If you are worried about him coming for your son, then go ahead and file for custody and child support. If you wait, you give him the opportunity to do the same to you.

Answer 7

I dated a woman who cheated on me with a friend of mine who after they moved in together got her pregnant then he shunned her first born son (not mine) & then bailed when he heard she was cheating on him. Guys will do that especially after sons. My former friend went after her & full custody like 3 times & often even more when he had a gf. He's parents didnt like her for what she did & saw her as a gold digger so they encouraged it but also when a guy has a new gf the new gf often have issues with the father still seeing the mother especially if the new gf has been hurt or worse cheated on in the past especially because of similar situation like an ex gf or baby mother being a booty call. Sole custody works where you go to court pay lots of money & do alot of he said she said stuff trying to make you appear the better adult for the child & the other as a bad person so that you get sole custody & future money without having to let the guy come around. My former friend brought up my ex's past with drugs & running away & being molested as reasons she was unfit among other things. It got ugly & took a toll on her. It also costed her lots of money which most of the time she didnt really have. She fought & got sole custody of the first which was like 20k & the first father didnt really fight her on it since he had 8 others & was 16 years older then she was. He was 34 she was 12 when they met & 15 when he got her pregnant then cheated on her with some other 14 year old getting her pregnant. It can & will cost alot & get very very ugly & personal. If you did anything borderline in the past it will come out. If you smoked, if you drank, if you did drugs especially around the baby or while pregnant. As a guy I would say go for it & get it over with for your sake & the babies but be prepared to be hurt. If you had sex with more then one person or multiple times in a day as bad a picture about you as he can paint he will try because again its about whos more fit for the child. He will likely make up or exaggerate also. good luck I really do feel for you & all women who are in a similar situation I know I still love my ex & hate seeing her still go through it with my former friend & he was tame compared to the first one when it came to them trying to share custody but once she went to fight him for sole he optied out not sure why but the former friend tried to beat her to it by fighting her with the endless financial support of his parents which she didnt have so again in the end money is also keep as much as anything. If they have endless amounts they can drag it on until you don't trust me they tried that with my ex....

Answer 8

This is between you and the father. I say file for support...your son deserves it...if he doesn't want to be physically part of his life then don't push that issue because your son nor you need a negative role model in your lives.

Answer 9

The gf needs to keep her mouth and nose out of anything concerning your child.

Get your butt to the court house or the local child support enforcment and get him to paying support.

IF you weren't married, he will have a very hard time getting your son from you. He would have to show abuse, drugs, drinking, just things that make you not look like a good mom.

The gf pisses me off.......................she needs a bit*h slapping!!

Answer 10

i think you should go for the child support. He may be serious about the not wanting nything to do with your son and you, and that may be the only way to get the money you'll need to support your son.