I had an online relationship for about six months, one I did not ask for. He was agressive and although I resisted him for a long time, I had a hard time resisting him forever. He also has a long time g/f (and kids) that he doesnt want to know what he does online. Now he has another women on our same message board and he is pouring it on heavy, saying the same things to her that he did to me and all the while lying to me while saying i love you please lets be friends. And how sorry he is it ended up this way. blah blah blah This is killling me. I am almost suidical. I can hardly sleep or eat. Now I am feeling the need to get back at him. I want to call his g/f and tell her of his online actions. She would be so angry and it would screw things up for him like this has done to me. I just want to tell her to read his posts that he writes when she goes to work and at night when she is alseep. What should I do. I am sick of hurting.
2007-03-06 14:51:14 · 12 answers · asked by ka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you could tell his g/f , but will it really make your hurt go away ? the answer is no it won't. sweetie concentrate on you and let this jerk go . you deserve far better . trust me the g/f will find out in time. and you can take comfort in knowing you did not cause her the same pain you are feeling now bye telling her. life is way to short to waste it with a two timing cheating jerk . so let him go and move on with your life. and find that special someone who will treat you with the care and respect you deserve .
2007-03-06 15:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a very simple answer to all of this, & here it is.
Just let it go.
Wash your hands of this loser. Change your e-mail & on-line ID if you have to so you can cut him off, but stop being angry at him.
There's little point in getting back at him & what would it do for you to contact his g/f anyway. Do you think she will thank you for carrying on a six month on-line affair with her man?
The sooner you put this guy in the past the better, & you will only drag things out longer by staying involved, & contacting his g/f.
Above all you need to forgive yourself for letting him draw you in to his web of deceit. The hurt you are feeling is comming from within yourself. You won't stop hurting until you learn to LET GO.
God Bless! :-)
2007-03-06 23:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge isn't the answer. It won't solve anything and it won't make you feel any better. Stay out of it. Its not your business. If he was doing something harmful to this person that is one thing but if not, Just move on and get off that board. The more you dwell the more upset you'll make yourself, and if your already suicidal, then you need to talk to someone and fast. Don't let some1 control you mind,heart and soul. Talk to someone and get some help fast.
2007-03-06 22:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by VIRA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should be warned of his actions, he shouldn't be acting that way. But make no mistake, it won't make you feel better. Yes you will feel good about yourself for setting things straight and correcting his wrongs, but honestly, honey, you probably will still have a little bit of hurt. Good Luck, and I hope you get over him soon, a guy like that isn't worth the hurt you're feeling. Don't let some useless scummy guy make you feel so bad about yourself.
2007-03-06 22:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Katie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that were your husband (assuming you had one), would you want to know? and if so, would you rather have someone tell you or surprisingly find out?
I would rather know. The good thing about your situation is that it didn't go beyond that. Do you have any evidence, like a manuscript or anything you can have as a proof? if you have evidence, I would say go for it and avoid some more victims.
2007-03-06 22:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it, this was just an online relationship? Sorry, but it's all no big deal. How could you be so emotional over a relationship that was just online? You shouldn't call the wife, that's crazy. Stay out of it, get off the computer, and go out.
2007-03-06 22:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think his girlfriend should find out, but not from you. It's very uncool to hurt someone that way just to hurt someone else. She probably already has her own suspicions anyway, since someone who plays that way doesn't hide it very well. Save you conscience and let her find out for herself or from someone else. You don't know her or owe her anything and it may just make her angry with you. She'll face it when she's ready. Don't hurt her just to hurt him. She doesn't deserve that.
2007-03-06 23:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. You will not achieve anything by being spiteful. Find someone else, can't you see the picture, he is not really interested in you?
2007-03-06 22:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by BFCP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting back at him is not the mature thing to do nor will it make you stop hurting, but if you can find it in your heart to call his wife out of compassion and let her know of his actions i'd recommend doing that, but not for revenge, for the wifes sake.
2007-03-06 22:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by mandeeree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do NOT take this to your heart!! DO NOT BE SUICIDAL!! Dont give into this. You are better person. Rake the higher road. Dont expose him. I know you hurt but you will have more pain if you expose him. He will do it all on his own. You do not need to stoop to his level or anyone elses. Take the higher road. Move yourself on. There are many fish in the sea. Dont hurt...get angry enough to not take anymore energy from you and move on to a better you!! JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 23:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Wolf woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋