I liked my colleague very much. So much that even my friends who I had talked to regarding my incident had commented that I must have really liked her.
Yesterday, I walked her to the bus-stop and it started to rained heavily. I was holding the umbrella and I put my arm over her shoulders to pull her closer to the umbrella because she will get drenched if she stood too far away from the umbrella. After walking to the shelter, I removed my hand. I asked her to give me a chance to go steady with her but this was my fifth rejection from her. She told me that she treated me like a friend but I treat her both as a friend and someone that I treasure and want to be with throughout my life.
She told me not to think too much about relationships and advice me to accept no as an answer. My heart and feelings tell me to persevere no matter what happens. Guys and girls, any comments or good advice? I am serious about her and I really like for who she is and I am sincere to be with her. Persevere?
2007-03-06 14:43:18 · 7 answers · asked by warrax 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot make someone fall in love with you. Please take my advice seriously. Save your wonderful passion for someone who can reciprocate it!!
2007-03-06 14:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by mominkansas03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend liked me for over eight years and he still does. I recently told him that i could only see him as a friend still, coz there r things bout him that i would not want in my partner. Maybe she is the same? Maybe she values your freindship so much that she does not want to ruin it, or bluntly that she just wants to be your friend. Questions like this are never easy and feelings are very hard to change. Hav u tried dating other people? By all means keep chasing her but keep all other options open as well, coz u may get a connection with sum1 else.
2007-03-06 22:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean, good job on not being shy, but you need to know when to stop. You can't get all the girls, sometimes it just doesn't work out. If you keep asking, you might lose her as a friend too.
If you just be a really good friend, she might start to get interested in you, and when you feel that, ask her again, in a subtle way.
Good Luck!
2007-03-06 22:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by kompyuutah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately perseverance does not always work. It is better to leave it alone. She has already said no. While it is a romantic notion to wait and try over and over, in today's world it could lead to being sued for sexual harassment. Accept her friendship and enjoy that for what it is. In time you will find another.
2007-03-06 22:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First or second rejections, the girls is probably teasing your persistence a bit.
5 times, she means a NO and there is going to be a NO.
Just be friends with her. What's wrong with having her as a friend.
2007-03-06 22:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she isn't ready right now. for now just be her friend who knows what will happen down the road. and then she might be thinking that you are working together and then if it doesn't work out you both will have to see each othere every day
2007-03-06 22:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by sharon r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is some advice, don't refer to the person you are madly in love with as your "colleague".
2007-03-06 22:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Quant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋