Why does my brother tell on me?

Question

He was asleep on the recliner and I thought he heard me say im going to walk the dog. When I got back he said where were u. I told him out walking killer (my dog). I asked him did u call mom he said yeah i was like why did u do that? because i didnt know where u went. And earlier i called my boyfriend at the store.and we were talking and he asked if he could come over i was like ok .He showed up i was like what r u doing? he said i could come over i was joking. im so sorry i said well i saw my brother calling someone well i was outside for less that 7 mins and then went in side. to take a shower. I asked him did u call mom i was like why did u do that. he said cuz he wanted to tell her that he came over and she told him to watch me im f ****** 20 yrs old and hes 22 and my brother is 13. So what so what can I do?

Answer 1

You need to slap him over the head and tell him that if he keeps this up that when he needs you to bail him out of something that you wont

Answer 2

The problem isn't your brother, it's your mom. Obviously, she doesn't trust you and has enlisted your brother's 'help' to keep tabs on you. If she hasn't, then her acceptance of this behavior gives the impression that yes, it's okay with her that he's acting like this, which will only make him continue the behavior.

You need to sit down with your mom and set some guidelines over what she feels is and is not acceptable behavior; it is her house, after all. Also, tell her how your brother's constant 'reports' are insulting and make you feel like she can't trust you--and if that's the case, why shouldn't you do the things she doesn't want you to do if she already thinks you're doing them? Hopefully, she'll see the reasoning there and the two of you can work it out.

Short of that, move out ASAP. You're old enough to make your own decisions, and you don't need a warden. Good luck.