my girlfriend is southern baptist and we've made it to second base. I think we should try it and that its no big deal. im not at all religious, and was just wondering how to ask her whether we are ready or not? any risks? tips?
2007-03-06 14:36:29 · 8 answers · asked by americanadian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Risks?
Emotional consequences, having your enjoyment of sex cloud your judgement of the relationship, comparing her to future wife.
Unwanted pregnangy, std's, etc.
Doing something illegal
Is someone who isn't mature enough to use capitalization mature enough to have sex?
2007-03-06 14:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by A L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't pressure her. That's an easy way to end the relationship. Also, it's the wrong thing to do, and she'll be an emotional wreck afterwords if she only does it out of pressure. If you want to be free to explore your sexuality, you'll probably have to find another girlfriend. Or, stay with her an accept the sexual limitations. It's up to you, but don't try to change her.
Of course, there's other risks too, but I'm sure you know to always use a condom.
2007-03-06 14:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not push it if she does not want to. If she's not ready, she's not ready. To me, 16 is still young and you're lucky your gf still has some moral values, nowadays, it's very rare. She has every right to want to wait and you should respect her decision. You may not be very religious at all, but she is, and if you loved her you'll wait. Sex should be at the right time in place, marriage. If you want it that much, I'm sure there are other girls out there who would be willing.
2007-03-06 14:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are with your girlfriend because you liked who she was (her personality, her thoughts, her beliefs, her apperance...etc) when you got together. My suggestion is just talk to her about the issue. Perhaps you two could comprimise. Maybe you could go to church for a couple months, and then you and her both decide if you feel it is really what both of you want. Just remember, you don't want to pressure your girlfriend or change her own beliefs (or devotion to God) just for your own pleasure. Because you have to live with the fact that you might be there for her forever, but He always will.
2007-03-06 14:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, if you really cared about her, you shouldn't pressure her at all...when and where is all up to her.
For girls the first time is supposed to be special with someone they love....not some ****** who has no respect and only thinks with his ooh-hoo! The first time can be very emotional, and if she's religious then it will be worse...
I'm sorry but I have to defend her and her right to wait. if you wanna have sex, go FIND someone who's willing to give it up....
Oh.. and im not religious either, but this is about respect.
2007-03-06 14:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by mzsunrize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does it, it would probably make her feel really guilty afterwards. I don't know if that's a good idea. So don't pressure her, and show respect for her decision and her beliefs. Otherwise she might resent you later.
2007-03-06 14:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Surely Funke 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex alittle bit for 5 min first kiss then sex
2007-03-06 14:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Turab C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no, no sex underage please?........ lol jk, do whatever you want, but just don't get caught
2007-03-06 14:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋