Im in highschool and I like this girl who is now a realllly good friend of mine. She is also my ex's best friend. I dated my ex for a month about 5 months ago and it was def nothing serious. (I mean, it was about a few hugs and football games and that was all!) So, within the first 2 months after breaking up with my ex, I admitted twice to this girl that I really liked her. but both times she said that she didnt "know if it would work, if ever" cuz it would hurt my ex, and that she just wanted to stay friends "for now". But its been 5 months now, cmon, i think thats enough time for my ex to cool off (i say it again: it was nothing serious!). and now me and this girl are hanging out alot more and having a blast together. we have so much fun when we're together and are always laughing.
Should i try asking again?
How can I tell if shes turning around?
And lastly, what else can I do to make her stop thinking me as a friend and start to like me more as a potential boyfriend?
2007-03-06 14:22:34 · 13 answers · asked by olnavybean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, my ex and I do not even talk anymore. I mean, if Im passing her in the hallway i give a quick smile and say hi but thats it.
2007-03-06 14:30:24 · update #1
The point is, that this is your exgirlfriend's best friend. This girl will know exactly what's going on. so, if your ex still has feelings for you, she knows about it and she knows that its not acceptable for you to be with her. If this girl really likes you, she will know exactly when its the right time. Because, she would probably mention it to your ex and get her blessing (or, go for it and they won't be best friends anymore). Either way, you just have to sit tight and in the meantime, maybe look around for other girls. You ex's best friend is kind of a taboo area. If you really like her, my advice is not to say it to her again but, as you say, you always have a great time together so keep hanging out having a blast and if she likes you enough, one evening when you're having a great time together, it will happen naturally.
Good luck
2007-03-06 14:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...but do so in a comfortable and casual way...and see how she responds. Also consider the other girl you are no longer dating.
This girl probably doesn't want to hurt her friend, and also wants to be sure you are no longer interested in the other girl...even though you have said so. If the other girl has started dating someone else, it will be easier. It sounds like she likes you too or she wouldn't be spending time with you. She may just be waiting for you to ask her again....just make it easy for her....if she backs off...just wait awhile longer.....it may all have to do with her friend and what she is doing now....so don't take "not right now" as a final answer....she could have a reason....may even tell you if you
the reason.....so get up your courage and ask!
2007-03-06 14:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can be crazy at times. Basically, in most girls code of friendship, a girl can only date a friend's ex, if she has permission from that friend. It's just common courtesy. What probably happened is that while this girl you like probably has a thing for you, she has to stay true to her friend (your ex) who may still have feelings for you. Trust me, friends are way more important to girls than boyfriends, or at least they should be. It's a motto that guys come and go but friends will always be there. If I were you, I'd just ask her, straight up. It's better to lay it on the line than wait and wonder.
2007-03-06 14:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Brit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to say this but it seems that she isn't interested otherwise she would be with you by now. Anyway there's no harm in trying again. The only way she could be turning around is by saying yes to a date, perhaps. Also probably start ignoring her a little may be she'll miss you for the good friend you are and come to you running.
2007-03-06 14:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is everybody so critical of MSN? It allows you to say everything straight off without that horrible shyness. You can be completely honest without fearing for the reaction. A) You get to explain your feelings. B) They will be honest- no getting stuck in false relationships. Of course, asking them out face-to-face is always preferable. There is nothing like a bit of courage, right? Just NO to the getting a friend to do it- That is playground politics, and at 16 should have laid to rest at least 5 years ago.
2016-03-28 22:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you well feel when she is ready to be that way with you you should ask her if she is feeling you the same way you do her then you need to tell your ex to stay out of your bussiness. she is probably putting things in you friends head that why she tells you its to soon. let her no theres no chance for yall.tell your feiend that you really dig her a u hope that it will get more serious soon because wont that 2
2007-03-06 14:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think it was nothing serious to this former gf , but do you still call her and talk..... ? I think maybe you should ask her if she would mind if you see other people , to find out if she still does have feelings for you ....
The rest is completely up to you .
2007-03-06 14:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she likes you. For us girls we value friendships and we don't want to fight with our friends over a guy. I would suggest that for you to respect her decision and to just continue showing her that you love her . Don't force her into something that she's not ready yet bcoz she might end up blaming you in the end.
2007-03-06 14:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some girls, it takes friendship and comfort before deeper feelings can occur.
If she likes spending time with you, this is a hint. Ask her again.
2007-03-06 14:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being a girl, if she likes you as a friend she will hang out with you. but my advise to you is just ask her out and see what happens.:-) but if she says no wiat for a while... then try again. as for your ex... dont worry 'bout her.
2007-03-06 14:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by need answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋