I feel so selfish feeling this way but I don't know what to think?

Question

I recently got involved with a guy, and he just happen to be recovering from a battle with Cancer. We had the most amazing connection, more than I have ever felt with anyone else...i could tell he felt it too. He got really ill from a round of chemo for about 4 days, and totally changed towards me. I know i can't possibly understand what he's going thru but I feel so lost and he won't let me in to help. We had said we were together but now i dont know...he said he needs to focus on getting better. I get that but I don't know to think, and i don't want to bother him with my little issue. It seems so small compared to what he is going thru.... please offer honest advice

Answer 1

give him space..

Answer 2

He is probably scared. He is a guy and is not going to admit that to a woman he is just getting to know. I would give him some time and space but be available when he does want to talk. Just try to be supportive while he is going through this time. For now, he does have to worry about getting better and not about someone else and maybe he just doesn't have the energy for both. The best you can do is be there and when he is feeling better, I'm sure things will change for the better. I hope everything goes well for him and you!