I recently got involved with a guy, and he just happen to be recovering from a battle with Cancer. We had the most amazing connection, more than I have ever felt with anyone else...i could tell he felt it too. He got really ill from a round of chemo for about 4 days, and totally changed towards me. I know i can't possibly understand what he's going thru but I feel so lost and he won't let me in to help. We had said we were together but now i dont know...he said he needs to focus on getting better. I get that but I don't know to think, and i don't want to bother him with my little issue. It seems so small compared to what he is going thru.... please offer honest advice.
2007-03-06 14:10:11 · 4 answers · asked by CuteChic 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I am a 33 year old male with Crohns Disease. I have had this disease for about 10 years. I am not telling you this because I think my condition is as serious as your boyfriends condition. I am telling you this because my relationship with my wife has been tested many times do to my condition. I was diagnosed with it about 2 years into my relationship with my wife. I have good days, and I have bad days. Sometimes I have to spend a few days in the hospital when it gets really bad. When I am having problems with my condition I sometimes feel like just staying to myself. If my wife tries to get to close during that time I push her away. We have had many problems over the years because of this. When I am really sick I just want to do the things I need to to get better. I think you are kinda in the same situation with your boyfriend. My best advice for you would be to let him have his space. Let him know that your there for him if he needs you. Then let him dictate how much he is going to involve you in his recovery process. I know this is not an easy thing for you to do. Just remember that this is not easy for him to go through either. You need to decide whether or not this relationship and these circumstances are worth the patience and understanding that they will require. If you really care about this guy you will be able to handle it. Remember to keep your boyfriend and your relationship in your prayers and I will do the same. Good luck to you and your boyfriend. God Bless!
2007-03-07 05:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by sublime1973 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes going to have lots of ups and downs and good days and bad days. It takes alot of dedication and sacrifice to support and be there for someone with cancer.hopefully he will get better and will be able to beat the cancer. but you cant take it personally when he pushes you off. all you can do is be there when he needs you and try and give him space when hes in a world of his own. its up to you how much you want to invest in the relationship.
2007-03-06 22:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
W ell its normal that you want to feel loved and you want him to be there for you. You dont want him to push you away, but u have to consider what he is going through. Maybe he feels like hes putting a big burfden on you. or maybe he doesnt want to get any closer to you cause he is looking out for you and dont want u to really be hurt if something bad happenes to him
2007-03-06 22:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by michele t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him then make the right choice. It's a life or death matter... and you just like him. I don't really want to give you any bad advice here. Your problem is so small compare to him.. he can die.
2007-03-06 22:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Scpwnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋