In the past I've been in a disturbing and abusive relationship. (you know it had to end). I came back to God and continued to pursue a christian life. I forgive my x boyfriend for what he did to me and trauma he put me through but once in a while i would see him a few times at the corner store. We would speak for five seconds. Five horrible seconds and then carry on with our business. I forgive him but when we do talk, the painful memories would start running across my mind again. I do forgive but why my heart wont forget?
2007-03-06 13:56:57 · 14 answers · asked by surpassingangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because it was tragic what happened to you during your relationship with that dude. You can allways forgive somebody, but that does not mean that your heart and your spirit can forget. Since i am a christian, and i also forgive people myself, i still find myself not forgeting though, depending on the situation. So you need to confront that jerk and tell him how you feel, that also could release some existing pain. I know that it is hard in these kind of pickles but you are going to have to rise above it. Like what God said "revenge is mine", so let God take care of it. And do not ever forget to pray. I hope this helps
2007-03-06 14:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by some dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how long it's been since you broke up so I will assume it's fairly recent. In November of last year, I was left by my significant other. It was devastating for me. It tore me apart emotionally and nearly physically. I feel that now I have moved to a better place, though admittedly I'm not ready for something new. There are still days I wonder what went wrong. But I've been told a part of it will always stay with you. I think a lot of it will be there until you find someone new. Then only a small part will remain.
Best of luck.
2007-03-06 14:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sinclair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is that you choose to forgive him. I think that's really good and really healthy for you, getting on with your own life. I think its totally natural that you feel these things if you see him, especially, as you say, if it was an abusive relationship. I think that as time rolls on, you will have these feelings less and less when you see him. Please don't feel bad. You have done a really good thing in choosing to forgive and forget. its just that forgetting takes a bit longer than officially forgiving.
Good luck
2007-03-06 14:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by glim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going to places where you know he will be. If possible ignore him. Someone else will come alone a love you the way you should. Sound like his lost. Keep looking beautiful and some day he will come alone. Remember the experience you had with him a do not make the same thing again. Learn from this.
2007-03-06 14:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably remember that for a long time. Have you seen other people since then? Or do you not let anyone else in because you are scared because your scared that they will hurt you too? If I were you I would try to move on and just forget about him. He dosn't deserve you! Hope I helped! Good luck
2007-03-06 14:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by volleyballis4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your heart not forget. Let no man do that to you again. Eventually, time will dull the pain but you are wiser and older now so get on with your life.
Just one word of caution: the tough thing now is going to be to trust another man in you life; be careful but do not cheat someone who is honest and wants to love you.
2007-03-06 14:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident . you're able to be extra advantageous off single now yet then in an prolonged time in existence you're able to be able to sense very lonely. we are all here to coexist with somebody. no person merits to be on my own. Thats why Eve replaced into made after Adam. anyhow, having somebody who's continuously going to be there for you feels somewhat astonishing.Love is approximately taking a danger and taking risks is what existence is all approximately. it somewhat is the way you learn.
2016-10-17 11:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is god working for you.He gave you the strength to forgive,but you don't have to forget,That is just human nature,that hurt can take yr,'s to overcome,but you are strong..Better things will come for you and your anger will dissapate in time,
Hang in..
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-06 14:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by BaDonkaDonk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you forget....he hurt & abused you...and you have been scarred. don't speak with him..ignore him..he's out of your life...and should no longer matter.
move on...heal....and be grateful that you were able to get out....
yes..you can forgive..but never forget. good luck & God bless.
2007-03-06 14:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is harder for the heart to forget than it is to forgive someone~! I would not talk to him anymore until you can forget~!
2007-03-06 13:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋