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My son is 1 yr old and just started day care about 3-4 weeks ago. Now all of a sudden he is throwing fits!!! Tightening his body and screaming/crying. He loves going to the babysitter, he lights up to see her.

I just don't know whats going on with him. I thought maybe he has seen this, but I dont know. Sh only watches her 3 kids and my son. No other kids are involved. This just started tonight!

2007-03-06 13:55:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

It is happening whn I put him in his car seat and when we got him out of th tub.

2007-03-06 14:06:06 · update #1

9 answers

Welcome to toddlerhood! :) Not at all uncommon. he can't communicate what he wants, so that is how he is trying to get his point across. It makes things easier to give simple choices ( this.... or that...) talking with him about what he is doing, what he wants, ask him to do something simple. It may be something as simple as wanting a snack, wanting a hug, needing a drink.

2007-03-06 14:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by cowgirlkolbie 2 · 1 1

I wouldn't imagine that he's getting this from other kids. He may be too young for that just yet.
I wouldn't give in to him though. If you do, he'll learn that whatever he wants, he just has to throw a tantrum in order to get it so the best thing that you can do is to put him in his high chair and let him know that when he's calm, than you will talk to him/give him attention. I know it sounds a little harsh, but the best time to start this is when they are young and soon he will understand what you're trying to communicate to him and you will find that he is doing this less and less. The best advice I can give you is to be consistant in whatever choice you make. Giving in to him should not be a choice. Keeping yourself calm during his tantrums is a must (eventhough inside you want to SCREAM your own head off!) since this will only make matters worse and suddenly, he has won this battle. And alot of times it is simply that. A battle of wills that you must show him NOW that you will win everytime.
YOU are the parent here. He needs to know in no uncertin terms that what you say goes or he will walk all over you for the rest of your life.
Just remember to stay calm....use as few words as possible. Let him know that he's going in his high chair and he can come out when he's finished his tamtrum. When he's finished (this may take a LONG time at first) you will help him communicate what he wants. When he IS finsihed (totally finished) give him a hug and a kiss and calmly say, "there, let's find out what you want now." and simply proceed to point to things/ask him what he wants and if it starts again, back in the high chair he goes.
Don't worry that he won't want to sit in his high chair cuz now it's "the bad place". He knows when he's not acting approproately and when he's in there to eat or drink or play. Children know this.
I know it's hard. It's the toughest thing you will go through at this stage, but it will be SOO worth it in the end when you can communicate with your child without a tantrum.

2007-03-06 14:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He's attention starved..he wants his mommy. This is a frustrating age because he can't communicate his needs to you with words. The other thing is that he's now seeing behaviour of the sitters 3 kids, he might just be learning how to get what he wants with bad attention. My 1st son was an angel, the other three had a bigger kid to learn from. He might love the babysitter, just make sure you really spend LOTS of time with him in the evening. Don't give in to the tantrums and he'll eventually grow out of it. Good luck!

2007-03-06 14:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0 0

Well this could be toddler days, but it could be separation issues, or maybe something is happening at the sitters house, you do need to check into this. You never know what might be going on.
As far as dealing with the tantrums you need to sit him in a quiet place when he is tantruming and do not acknowledge. Don't show that you even care that he is doing this, this will help him get over them quicker, when he does do what is asked of him tell him good job. In other words ignore bad behavior and reinforce good behavior and soon he will know this is not working with you. Toddlers his age does not understand time out so just put him in a quiet place and tell him in one or to words calm, or nice mouth nice hands, then walk away. Allow him to cool down then hug him when he has and tell him good job calming down.

Good luck

Hope this helps.

2007-03-06 17:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0 0

i honestly dont think that there is a connection between the tantrums and daycare, he is only asserting his independence. the best thing to do is ignore him when he is throwing a fit, show him that throwing a fit does NOT equal getting attention from mommy and he will learn other ways to express himself. if you are out in public when he does it, take him to the car or outside until he calms down so that he doesnt get the attention of all the people around him. the key is to give him as little attention as possible when he is having a tantrum

2007-03-06 15:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by krystal 6 · 0 0

It's just normal. The best I can say is to try to get used to it and let him throw his fit. He will usually stop after 10-30 seconds. Good Luck!

2007-03-06 14:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by jefftechcrew2006 2 · 0 0

It could be just toddlerhood--- but something could have happened at daycare that has made him uneasy about it... then again, if it's toddlerhood and seperation he's having a problem w/, maybe having the teacher or sitter interact w/ him so you slip out might would work.

2007-03-06 14:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bio Instructor 4 · 0 0

STAY CONSISTENT with discipline.

when he acts like that tell him you dont like it and ask him to stop
then if he chooses to continue tell him "this is your final warning. if you dont stop then I'm going to have to put u in time out" then if he continues take him to time out and put him down kindly and tell him hes in time out for throwing a fit. then wait 1 minute and come back...sit down next to him and ask him to come here....then tell him he's in time out because he was throwing a fit. then tell him you love him and hug him and carry on like nothing happened.

he just learned what he saw and he's trying it on for a change. if he gets you all upset then it's a new thing and he's going to do it for the reaction out of you.

2007-03-06 16:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0 0

The fun is only beginning!!!!!
It is because he is realizing that you are making him do something, that he does not want to do. And he now knows that he can voice his opinion on the issue. It only gets worse with time.

2007-03-06 15:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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