we perform deathday of our parents.not birhday-is it not meaning less to forgetbithday and remember deathday?

Question

in india ,that too in hindu families we perform SRADDAM[ death anniversary]by offering money etc to a rich priest[not a poor man]
we cook good dishes and enjoy -
is it the way to remember our departed parents?

Answer 1

Under normal circumstances parents celeberate children's birth hence revel in child's birthdays, while children on most occasions witness parents death and observe their death days. This is so considering the human life cycle, parents see children born and children see parents die. Both celeberate events that are memorable from their perspective.
SO go ahead dig up the memories and achievements of the departed one and celeberate a life well lived.

Answer 2

Give the money to the poor man instead of the rich priest. Share the food with the poor man also. The priest does not deserve the money. Remember the Budda. Was he rich? That rich priest will have to answer someday. You're Karma will increase by remembering the poor and not making the priest richer.

Answer 3

In fact, when our parents are alive, we never care for them & when they are dead, we try try to gain sympathy/ name in the society. In my opinion, celebration of both dead day & birthday are useless.

Ofcourse yes, if we can help others/needy , we should do so but should not wait for the birthday/deadday. Every day is precious as God has created each moment of this world.

We must only live in today. Future & past never belong to us.

My best regards to you.

VK

Answer 4

No need of performing deathday/birthday etc.
We remember parents throughout life, each day, each moment. Their soul guides us in crisis and crossroads.
They are the real gods to us.

Answer 5

I believe it is bad to forget the birthdays. I think it is very interesting that you celebrate death days. I think of this too, but I do not actually do anything to celebrate it. You have given me some ideas though. Thank you.

Answer 6

In some cultures 'eating with the dead' is an important annual ritual which goes back to even earlier times . It really depends on what you believe (or have been told to believe) death actually is.

Answer 7

If they are alive we do celebrate their birthdays. If you can remember a departed one offering rites are great things. You need a big heart for that.

Answer 8

Sraddam or Shradh is praying to God that their soul rests in peace. The rite is never meant to remember them. You want, you can celebarate their birthdays too. It's called 'Saalgirah'.

:-)