The other day a woman showed at my bf's parents house with two kids ages 12 and 14 and said he was the father even though 12 and 14 years ago when they were born she said they weren't and one of the kids looks just like my bf. He is so mad at her for lying and keeping this from him. What would you do in this situation.
2007-03-06 13:38:08 · 17 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The kids are already attached because the mom has told them so many good things about my bf.
2007-03-06 13:44:23 · update #1
all you can do is have him get a paternity test on both kids and if he is the dad then allow him to be a father, after all this did happen before you even knew him and he didn't even know they existed so you really can't be mad at him. but i'd definitely keep a close eye on her skank behind. take care.
2007-03-06 13:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a paternity test, and not because he may have to pay child support or because he will have more responsibility in his life, but because everyone in this situation deserves to know the truth. As his gf, be supportive, but let him make his decisions about what he wants to do. Be there for him and let him know that you support the decisions he makes, but let him handle the situation. If the children are his and he decides to take an active role, be there for him and the children. However, allow him the time to build a relationship and form a bond with them. Be patient if your time becomes limited with him for a while.
2007-03-07 02:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nineteen years ago I met a woman and we hit it off right from the start. We dated hot and heavy for a month and then she disappeared. last year I get a phone call from my son who I never knew and was AMAZED ! He came to visit me and we talked about his mom and what happened. She was married at the time and never told me. She passed away three years ago and he had been looking for me since then. He had found some photo's and things from when she and I were together. Personally I felt ripped off. I could have been part of his life and a dad to him as he grew to a man. I came to find that things went the way they did because that's the way it was meant to be. Today we have each other and that's the important thing. Tell your man to let the past go and deal with today. No one can change the past. live for today and be part of the youngsters life.
2007-03-06 21:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt a 12 year old and 14 year old are attached to him- that is not how kids work but he needs to be nice to them and for sure get a paternity test, while waiting for the results he needs to treat them as if they were his kids-
2007-03-06 21:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by missnibbles6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it sounds, do not become involved in that situation. It is your bf's problem and if the woman proves it, he will likely have to pay support or go to family court to have decisions made.
You need to decide what is best for you. If you choose to stand by him, be supportive, but don't have any opinion one way or the other, because it could blow up in your face. This is one of those situations that are best left to the ones involved.
2007-03-06 21:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Keep it Simple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to double check first, before he gets attached.. Get a DNA test, and then go from there. I however, if I was a man of course, would be pissed, and then get custody of the boys, if he wants of course. Good luck. What a crappy situation to be in.
2007-03-06 21:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DNA test and make her pay for it.
Be supportive of your bf. However he wants to be part of his child's life, be supportive. Also, realize that if the DNA test proves that he is the father, she can go after him for child support. Emotional support from you during this will be very important.
2007-03-06 21:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sly Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days there is a thing called "paternity testing" which is absolutely marvelous! accurate even!
don't take her word for it...
i'm sure your boyfriend is hurt and confused as well as "mad"... sorry to hear.
i imagine the children are having to deal with quite a lot, too. fact is, it's not their fault. hopefully, everyone is being gentle with those kids!
take care
2007-03-06 21:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
KILL THE *****.....na Just joking. You might want to call the cops on her, that and you could have your bf take a dna test to prove to the woman that he aint the babies daddy.
2007-03-07 04:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by shitgoblin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for a blood test too much time has past don't be an stubborn ole fool
2007-03-07 07:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋