he says he's old fashioned.....and he's kind of nice about it...always telling me how great my legs look(see for yourself on one of my 360 pics)......i just don't know......sometimes l just luv wearing a tight pair of jeans....
2007-03-06 13:35:43 · 67 answers · asked by liza_pq 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get ride of your pants. You have a few options you can choose from to solve your problem.
1. Sweet talk your boyfriend into realizing the potential of a tight pair of jeans. They show off your assets and hug you in all the right places. Causing you to look eye catching. Use those feminine wilds your mom taught you.
2. You could nix him and move onto a guy with a broader spectrum of style. I mean really he's dating you not your cloths.
3. You could were skirts and dresses around him only and wear your pants when your not around him.
Either way if he doesn't give a little on something then hey give him up. You should be comfortable in a relationship to wear what ever you desire. Ya man shouldn't be twisting your arm to conform to his needs.
2007-03-06 13:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by giya_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find out why he wants you in skirts and dresses, but it may not come from a direct question, but maybe observation. Is he insecure about his manhood? Does he try to be macho? Or is it just that he is a controlling person? Pay attention to his mother's and father's relationship and see if you can pick up any clues from that. Also, maybe observe his relationship with his mother and his sisters. Maybe see that if you make an effort, if he will calm down a bit on it and be more flexible. That is NOT the final answer though. He should not dictate what you wear. He can say what he likes, what maybe turns him on, but if you are constantly a turn on to him, then where is the special moments when he finds you so sexy.
With all this being said, it is not a good thing to have to be in a relationship where he controls you like this. If this is just a phase, like he is going through something himself and making stupid decisions, such as stating this desire, because of it, then work through it. If this is something that is deeply ingrained into his relationships, then you may want to remove yourself from it. Today its his decision what you wear, but tomorrow ( or in the future) it will be decisions much more important, and if you ever marry ( I have no idea how old you are) it can lead to you not having a say in decisions really important to you, such as your diet, your health, your finances, your kids health, your kids education, your methods of disciplining your kids, etc, etc.
Good luck - hope I helped!!-Ashley
2007-03-07 10:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by ashley_david_ny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, drop this guy like a hot potato! It's all a game...he gets you to do what he wants be "complimenting" you. I bet he says you look cute with no makeup on and a ponytail, huh? And "old-fashioned"? This is not the 1800s. listen, it's all about control. It's starts small and pretty soon he's telling you when to eat, when to shower, where to go and what to do. He'll keep you from your family and drive away all your friends. Trust me - GET OUT NOW! Get rid of him and wear whatever you want, girl!
2007-03-06 13:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lose the bf. It's OK for him to say he likes how you look in skirts, but if he tries to control your wardrobe, it's a bad sign. Today it's your jeans, tomorrow your friends and family, then your job, then your phone calls and trips out of the house. He may be "nice" in his control behavior now, but if you live with him or worse, marry him, you're in for trouble. The only way I'd stick with him is if you go ahead and wear jeans and he doesn't make a deal of it (even in subtle ways).
2007-03-06 13:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do something that you don't want to just because he wants you too. Why in the world would you love wearing a tight pair of jeans? That is just rude and disrespectful to yourself and your boyfriend.
2007-03-06 13:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't change yourself for him. You can still wear pants if you want. Tell him that you will make a pact to try and wear skirts a little more often when you and him go on dates. But don't give up wearing pants if you want to and that is what you like.
2007-03-06 13:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
those are "his" wishes, not yours. when you allow him to dictate to you what you can or can not wear you are saying that you are okay with his insecurities and are agreeing to change for him. if that's okay with you then throw out the pants. you dont have to throw him out though. but you do need to be firm. i also think the compliments, though they may be true, you prob. have great legs, but more than likely he's being passive aggressive. he's getting you do comply with simple manipulation. and that's never a good thing. so call his bluff. tell him you love his compliments but you havent been dressed by anyone else since you were 5!
2007-03-06 13:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id get rid of him. Even if he's old fashioned, is it his business what you wear? I mean, its not as it ure wearing a mini skirt or something. Talk to him and sort it out . he doesnt sound sincere though. Btw, stop gloating, ure really not that hot. Above average legs, complexion''s just ok
2007-03-06 13:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out!!! He's trying to control you so you will become his ideal lover. As "you" change you will increasingly dislike yourself, and you can never be somebody you're not. You can't "make" a person happy. His happiness has to come from within him. He will never be satisfied with you because he is dissatisfied with himself. He sounds like he needs counseling, and the fact that you are asking this question means that you would probably benefit by a girls/young women's group.
2007-03-06 13:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by blue check 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should accept you as you are, in skirts, in pants, in shorts, in swimsuits etc Why is he bothered with such things. So long as you feel comfortable in whatever clothes you wear, just wear 'em. Good luck.
2007-03-06 13:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋