and now she feels like she has feelings for the guy but she still loves me and she's scared she'll do it again and she doesnt know what to do and I dont ether can someone help me understand this all..
2007-03-06 13:35:30 · 21 answers · asked by x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also love her very much n i understand she might do it again but she cried so bad when she told me and she was sorry and it was a mistake and we've been together for almost 2 years and we dont want to end it..i dont want to end it and i love her so much i cant live without her she is truely my soulmate..I just dont know what to do about her feelings for this other guy who kept asking her til she was high n she said yes
2007-03-06 13:56:39 · update #1
Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
Yes she is cheating, now ask yourself why, and then say goodbye and get a girlfreind closer to home.
2007-03-10 10:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem, only it was mii who did the cheating. I had a long talk with the long-distance guy (ill call him Matt) & we decided thatsince we still have a while b4 we see each other, we should just see other people. we still act the same, but i am allowed to enjoy the last of my high school years w/ whoever i want. just recently he proposed over the phone. i said yes, and even though i had a b/f & still do, matt is mii fiance'. the only change now is that i cant make ne future plans with ne1 else, and i promised him i would stay abstinent for him. he is a virgin & ive had sex with two guys. i wish more than nething that i could give him my virginity, but there's no turning back now.
2007-03-06 21:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by party_girl10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that she has dumped you. She's gone, never to return. That's the problem with long-distance relationships. The temptation to try out someone new is too strong.
Dump her quietly. Don't beg her to come back, or show any anguish. You'll only make an a-s-s of yourself in her eyes, and confirm to her that what she did was right.
Keep your dignity, and go fishing again.
2007-03-09 18:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated, you need to get out of the relationship. Long distance is hard enough, but if she's feeling like this, you need out. At this point, you may be better off to be friends if you want to be anything with her. Doesn't sound like she knows what she wants, and you'll be the one hurt in the long run.
2007-03-06 21:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt care for you enough. Even if she has a need for love and attention, losing her virginity to some guy is just not simple cheating. And long distance relationship is hard enough as it is since she's not committed enough to you. In the long run, it wont work anyway
2007-03-06 21:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm afraid this girl is confused right now. and perhaps you need to let her go. give her the space she needs. perhaps these feelings of love are just feelings of 'attachment' and guilt. trust me you dont want to compete with lust. and right now she and this guy have been in a very intimate relationship, something you and her havent done. so to compete with that is going to be hard, and you shouldnt have to. just let her go and when she grows up and you two see each other again maybe you two can pick it up...right now, she's kind of a mess!
2007-03-06 21:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may really love this girl. But, in my opinion, she may not be that loyal to you. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years and if he were to even kiss another girl, I would be devasted. Let alone, lose his virginity with her. Hun, she's not worth it. Especially, if she's having doubts on whether or not she has feelings for someone else. My advice: talk to her about it and let her know how you're feeling or move on. Goodluck.
2007-03-06 21:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by <3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this probably hurts like heck knowing she cheated on you..i had a girlfriend that did the same thing..it was very very very hard to do but i had to leave her..otherwise if you let it go she will think its ok to do cause you dont leave her when she does it. i hope this helps and i hope everything turns out for the best, i really do, cause ive been there and i know that this situation sucks..good luck
2007-03-06 21:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Packers4life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... what can you do?...Love and Sex are sometimes 2 different things...just break it off for now...both of you experiment and date other people and maybe.. if the love is there later..(when you live in the same city)..you can try again..
Good Luck!
2007-03-06 21:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by ryan s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me your g/f might have committed to you too soon . I don't think she knew what she was doing or wanted and may have committed to you because it was " the next thing" to do. I think you need to pull away from her and let her live her life like she wants and you go in your own direction.
2007-03-06 21:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋