I like this guy and according to my friend who spoke to him on sat night he likes me to and she thought he was going to ask me out for a drink,i see him in his work and at the end of the night he same over and i totally blanked him,i`m very shy and he is to i suppose but i just couldn`t bring myself to even look at him and was reading a txt on my phone,he did try to make small talk but i just didn`t.I don`t know why because i do quite like him but after being with my ex my confidence is really low.I wont see him till saturday and i think he`ll probably just blank me like i did him as he`ll think i`m not interested,i couldn`t ask him out so what else do i do?please help??thanx.
2007-03-06 13:31:53 · 12 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well........
Life is not forever so just go head.
Fears can ruin alot of things believe it or not.
I had to learn that the hard way.
So just ask him out.
Tell him your sorry blanking him.
Go have fun with your life while you have it.
Okay?
Your going to stop being shy because I was the same way.
Fears ruin the life you could have had.
2007-03-06 13:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play it cool. The more negative things that go on in your head, is what will get you messed up. THINK POSITIVE! Don't make an issue out of what happened. Let it go and start over. Don't panic because the guy will pick up on your vibes. Just move on like its another new day.
Your quote: I won't see him till Saturday and I think he'll probably just blank me like I did him as he'll think I'm not interested." If this is the way you are thinking, then that's what you will get. Turn your thoughts around into positive thinking at all times. Do not think negative. (Catch yourself when you do and change it). You need to spruce up your confidence again (a good thing that you already now this).
Being shy can be overcome, its just hardwork. All you need to do is just be casual and have conversations with him, no big deal. Would you like to date him? You don't need to rush. Just be yourself and if he likes you for who you are then it will be fine. Learn from mistakes, don't totally blank him again!!
2007-03-06 21:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if your confidence is low, that getting into another relationship before you've had a chance to strengthen yourself is a big mistake. And quite honestly, if neither of you have the courage to speak your mind to eachother rather than going through friends....then you still have some growing up to do. And building your confidence is a huge part of that. There's so much power in being able to walk up to someone and tell them what you really think. There leaves no room for doubt on either side.
2007-03-07 00:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your problem is talking to him, then how bout u go on a double-date or something. U could try getting your friend to organise a lime with him and some other friends instead of just 'u and him'. I'm sure that way u'll feel alot more comfortable, instead of awkward and nervous and maybe it would be easier to talk to him. Oh and when u do talk to him, jus be kool and try to be yourself and see how it goes from there....Well hope it works out, goodluck!
2007-03-06 21:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Miss V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid the only way I can see you getting out of this one is to be really brave, and corner him and tell him the truth:
tell him you are madly inlove with him- or words to that effect, and explain how you blanked him the other night becasue you found it easier than telling him how in love with him you are- that you were afraid if you told him how you really felt, and he didnt like you back, the rejection would be mind blowing.
That should get you in his good books?
2007-03-06 21:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweetheart, you snooze, you lose. If you don't have the confidence to talk to a guy that you fancy, then you don't deserve to be with him. Because I assure you, there are other girls out there who do have the confidence. I suggest that you get over this shyness, and when you see him on Saturday, you tell him how you feel. If he likes you too, it shouldn't be too daunting.
2007-03-06 21:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by b97st 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
se what is happening is when you 2 get close you know your feelings for each other and it seems a little odd huh? but i think the best thing to do is wait trust me. if yall cant talk know then you wont beable to talk later. slow down and get to know each other. and if you guys dont even talk that mainly means you like eachother based on looks and that is never the right reason.
2007-03-06 21:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Grace W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have not blown it. what you need to do ;is don't worry about it now;you will only keep upsetting you self.on Saturday if you see him ; just tell how you fill. and take it from there. it like people say; you have to be in it to win it.good luck ;let us know how it turn.s out.
2007-03-06 21:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see him,,go right up to him & say hi,,sorry I didnt speak to you last time,,I was just speachless,,,then gaze in his eyes & then ask if he has time to hang out or whatever.
2007-03-06 21:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
text/contact him and see how he is doing,so he knows you think about him and might be interested, and then on Saturday he won't blank you.
2007-03-06 21:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by throw_away_your_television_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋