My 1 year old daughter hits me!! Is this normal??

Question

I know its not normal, but is it normal behavior for kids her age to have a temper, because my daughter does. She screams this high pitch scream when she is mad and if she is doing something bad, like crawling under my computer desk, i go and take her away from it and I say NO! and she flails her arms and hits me. Im not sure what to do, she will be one a week from today, does she understand what she is doing? How do i discipline her? I sometimes slap her hand when she is doing something bad, could she be hitting me because of that?

Answer 1

All kids do that. Mine is 2 1/2 and we are getting into biting. People say don't spank etc. which is good, because you don't want to teach them that hitting is how you solve problems, but for kids that young time out is just about worthless! They do not understand how to just sit there or why they should. Mine is almost 3 and she still really doesn't understand the idea or point behind time out. Definately find a way to get her to understand that is not right....for mine i have found using a gruffy kinda of low toned voice and a stern look on my face while looking directly in her eyes and saying no is what seems to work best.

Answer 2

Her behavior is completely normal. Now is the time to lay down the law and start teaching right from wrong. When she exhibits her bad behavior, you tell her, "No that's not okay to hit" pick her up, and put her in her crib, or in a playpen WITH NO TOYS. Somewhere that she cannot get out of, but still will be able to see you. Don't talk to her anymore for about a minute or 2. This is a form of timeout. If you feel like you have to explain to her, keep really simple--she's a one year old, and long explanations will mean absolutely nothing to her.

Answer 3

I believe they don't know what no means at this point. I believe they are just trying to get our attention. Try doing your computer work when she is asleep, she just wants Mum's time to herself.
They don't know what bad is. Give her another six months before discipline. Try putting her in her cot when she cracks up. But just remember she is mainly bored and just wants your time. Remove things that she is not allowed to touch, close doors and put things up high. If you give her your time and were her out she will sleep so much better with more time for you.
Good luck
P.S Just got to read the other people's answers and it is so sad that you feel the need to hit a Child at all. I think a slap on the hand for touching a electrical cord is OK but what else can be so bad. Why aren't you with them and why are they acting up?????? Why are they left alone at the age of 1 to be doing anything so bad. Maybe you all need to get off the computer and do your job as a parent.

Answer 4

My daughter is 18 months old and is the same way, she has quite the temper on here and at times will even yank my glasses off my face and throw them. I don't think they realiz what they are doing, the only thing to really do is tell them no and distract them away from what she was doing wrong like give her a toy or something, my daughter is getting better...as far as the hitting her hand it might be because of that but i'm not sure cuz like i said my daughter will hit me but i have never hit her.

Answer 5

yes iit is noormal but that doesn't mean she can do that. When she does something ike that stay calm and don't yell. When she is under your desk go pick her up, look in her eyes and smile. If she starts screaming stay calm and don't yell NO. Go get a bunch of toys and a big confeter from a bed. Than place the conferter on the floor and putt all her toys on the floor. Place her on the play area and play with her for about 5 minutes and than when she doesn't notice go back to wha you were doing. If your daughter is getting sick of the same oldd toys seperate them in to four bags marked, WINTER SPRING SUMMER and FALL. Each season she will get used to those toys and than she will get to play with new toys that she is not firmiluer with. It worked for my children. Or get her one REALLY big toy like a toy fridge or get her a aby lab top. You press keys and it talks. Maybe buy her a table to crawl under. oh! good idea!!!! Buy her a little plastic table. Now get ribons and streemers. Tape or glue them under the top of the table than she will be busy playing with that, so you can work! (sorry if there is a lot of typos my 2 year old is on my lab and she is talking to me while I am typing)

Answer 6

this is normal for her age, she is only asserting her independence. i dont recommend slapping her hand because it confuses her, you are hitting her for hitting, it just doesnt make sense. she is not trying to be bad, she is just asserting herself. the best thing to do when she does something wrong is get down to her level so you can look in her eyes and tell her no in a stern voice. i dont know how well she communicates yet, but i have found that if i tell my daughter she is going to go to time out if she doesnt stop it usually works. the funny thing is, she has never even been to time out, doesnt really know what it is, she just knows its bad from my tone of voice. try it, maybe it will work.

Answer 7

Your one year old hits you...Houston we have a problem.No that's not normal.If I were you to discipline her I would put her in her room that is not right for her to put her hands on you.If you let her hit you at 1 when she's 2 3 4 5 6 etc. all the way up to her teenage years she is going continue to hit you. If I were you I would not allow her to have snacks no game time no dessert and a early bedtime all this till she learns to listen to mommy and make a spot for her to sit on like a rug or on a step or whatever and you get down to eye level and tell her that she is going to sit on that rug or step or whatever for 5 minutes until she learns to listen and then walk away and ignore her screaming and crying and if she get up you go and grab her put her back on that spot walk away an ignore her until she sits there then in five minutes you go to her get back to eye level and explain why she is sitting on that rug or whatever then you tell her to tell you sorry and give you a hug.Also every time she does what you say without a problem give her a privilege back snacks, game time,dessert, and a early bedtime goes away.GL(Good Luck)

Answer 8

yes that is why she is doing this, you are giving her mixed messages. Do not hit your child no matter what. She watches you hit her and thinks it is okay for her to hit. When she hits you or acts bad then you send her right to the naughty courner for 1 minute. (minutes=age of child) Then you take her off and tell her it was bad to hit you and that is why she was placed there. Stick to your guns and do not hit whatever you do. If you continue this hitting crap, she will be a lot worse in yrs to come. She knows what she is doign at that age and you need to stop it.

Answer 9

God made a spot for spanking and it is usually well padded! if that doesn't work then remove her from the area she is wanting to be in and put her either in bed or play pen. Tell her no and Never spank her when you are upset or angry. If you have to put her in the bed or play pen and leave the room for a few minutes or get a little air. But if you strike out in anger then she will learn to strike out in anger. But I don't believe a well timed spanking on the hind end will teach her to hit.

Answer 10

it is normal for small children to hit, you as a parent need to teach her that it is not ok, time out may not work so well now as she is so young she might not really get the point... if she tries to hit you just hold her arm while you tell her no in a stern voice. DO NOT HIT HER BACK.... everything she learns now she is learning by watching you.... if you hit she will think it is ok to hit and she will not understand why it is ok for you to do it and not her.