im 24 pretty i have a 7 year old recently divorced last march i havent dated since i was 16 im so sad all the time im lonley and friends and family dont help i have a cat i hate cats any advice for starting over and not crying my eyes out every night
2007-03-06 13:30:50 · 9 answers · asked by liza m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all cats are really cool animals.. also, you can make friends on here or other online spots very easily. You'd be surprised how many "normal" people there are out there that you can talk to and possibly meet. I met my "now ex" gf online and we went out for 3 years. Or you should start going out to an occasional bar or club and you're bound to meet some nice people there as well.
2007-03-06 13:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by jh361 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh hon...I'm so sorry. I can remember being 16-17 years old and feeling so overwhelmed by the world that I just wanted to go back a decade to when I could just crawl in my mom or dad's lap and be held. It came from knowing I was setting out for college and being responsible for my own decisions....which is kind of the same boat your in now. You're relatively young and have a child who you are having to raise alone on a day to day basis. The world is kind of a scary place right now. I think the key is to really reach out to people right now. See if you can find some kind of support group for single mothers. Let your family know how you are feeling right now. Something that usually helps me is to journal my feelings. I don't know if you're religious or not but how about going to church? Talking to a pastor can be a great way of unburdening yourself and he or she may know of some groups within the church that could be of help to you. Whatever you do, don't give up. And please don't go looking for love in the wrong places....you need to love yourself again before you set out in a romantic relationship. Chin up girl and hang in there.
2007-03-06 13:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by kweenie97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself busy. Spend your time finding ways to make yours and your child's life more enjoyable. If you find yourself needing a hug, tell your 7 year old that you need one. Children can be very loving and compassionate when we are down. Concentrate on you and your child, and try to take your attention off of yourself.
Plan your days ahead, things for you and your child to do. This is a great time in both your lives for you two to spend some quality time together. It will help.
2007-03-06 13:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If friends and family aren't helping you, that's probably a signal that you should seek psychiatric help.
There's nothing to be ashamed about it. I'm just saying Yahoo Answers probably isn't the best place to ask about a problem that actually seems serious. An actual professional would be much more helpful in turning your life around for the better.
2007-03-06 13:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mega64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain more then you ever know....
(single for more than 20 years)
My Mother went through the same thing and she choose me as a positive outlet and I will always love her for it.
Her attention was a plus..(Later she was married)
Your child needs you as a role model...
AS far as yourself ..it's time to let yourself be lonely..be sad..it's only normal..don't punish yourself because of it.
You have now a lot of free time to discover yourself and find your strengths and not dwell on the weaknesses.....
NO ONE I MEAN NO ONE Is worth less if they are single...
anyone who tells you otherwise has never known true love.
The strongest women I know is my single mother (at the time)
and in time...your child will love you for it.
I have been single and never loved another nor anyone loved me my entire life...I know what I am talking about.....
You have a real advantage over me..your child.:)
Good luck to you and remember your child will remember you of what you did these years not what who you were with...
2007-03-06 13:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lone Knight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 24 years old, you should get out and start socializing, i am sure you can find a babysitter for a couple hours, and it depends on what you like to do when you go out too.. i am sure a man would be very fortunate to find you.. there are so many men out there that feel the same way as you do right now.
2007-03-06 13:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a dog. Seriously, you really need to concentrate on raising your child. She needs you more than you need a man.
2007-03-06 13:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by linka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try listing your profile & pics at MySpace or YoBling.
You usually start getting replies pretty fast.
2007-03-06 13:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't cry honey i can be your friend
2007-03-06 13:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋