My mother was so dependent on me growing up and into my 20s and I so close with her, that if she got sick, I got sick. All of the women in my family have been sexually abused, married jerks, and all have some sort of depression and eating disorder. I am the only one who got out of the cycle (therapy, healthy eating, spirituality, etc.). How do I still be honorable to my mother but not make myself sick again in the process. Btw, she is big into guilt trips, button-pressing, and using any manipulation she can. She's only in her 50s and she now has way more money than I do. Still, she wants me back in her clutches.I don't feel it's right to totally stay away from her. She is my mother.
2007-03-06 12:55:52 · 5 answers · asked by Celestial 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Quit being the victim and she won't be able to manipulate you any more.Let her know that you care about her but you really don't care about the other garbage she drags in front of you.
2007-03-06 13:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move far away - Like to another region of the country. Become completely and totally independent of her and more importantly - her influences.
You'll force yourself to stay independent, and force her to lose her grip on your soul and find a life for herself.
Honestly, you might even get along better. It sure makes the holidays and other special occasions a little more special.
2007-03-06 15:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a budding well-being expert, you are going to be attentive to that existence-draining kinfolk like yours tend to develop into an obsession to the persons who guard them. The ill affected person is the only that gets the therapy, authentic? it is why you are the shoulder they cry on, the mummy they turn to, the spouse they fvck, on account which you're being concerned and nurturing. it particularly is no longer God's fault which you have egocentric fathers, it is theirs, and your mom for being attracted to adult males who're obsessive molester-varieties. God would not administration us, we've loose will, so if something undesirable happens it particularly is the duty of humanity to place it authentic. He gave us the international and one yet another. it particularly is our interest to repair it whilst it breaks. You and your sibling grew to develop into the sane ones on your loved ones, because of the fact somebody had to, in basic terms for the sake of survival. you do no longer could have touch along with your father, mom or step-father, yet on account which you experience a feeling of criminal duty to them, get them into some style of therapy application, and enable those professionals take care of it!
2016-11-28 03:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called emotional or covert incest, this happened to my ex, she needs to get therapy otherwise she won't change...
2007-03-06 13:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loosen your dependency on her. its probably an emotionally simbiotic relationship. cut your own apron strings. peace
2007-03-06 13:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋