I'm 13. Do you think that that is too young to have a bf? My parents told me I'm not allowed but i beg to differ. I already have one so they're making me break ^ w/ him and it really suxs. I've gone behind their backs b4 but i got in so... much trouble! No matter what I say, they won't change their minds. Is there anyway that i can obey them and still be happy? Thanks.
2007-03-06 12:44:55 · 10 answers · asked by Ae_Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I totally agree with your parents-you are way too young for a boyfriend. If you were sneaking out with him, you knew he wasn't anyone you should have been hanging out with. Anything you hide from your parents you know is wrong before you do it, so don't do anything you have to hide from them. If he is older than a 13 year old classmate you hang out with at school, it is definately necessary to end the relationship. They are doing this because they love you and want the best for you. They are protecting you from danger just like when you were little and had to hold their hand to cross the street. So let them continue to hold your hand and protect you from danger until you are mature enough to make some decisions on your own.
2007-03-06 12:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your parents' job to ruin your life. One of the few reasons to have children is to make them miserable.
(*sigh*) Seriously, they are trying to protect you from making mistakes early in life. I know it seems like they only want to torture you, but it takes alot of effort to do the right thing as a parent. Think of how much easier their lives would be if they didn't care enough to keep you in line.
Having a boyfriend. My daughter had a "boyfriend" at 13. They only saw each other at school. They couldn't hang out together and she wasn't allowed to date until she was 16. And, being the hardnosed parent I am, she had a 15 minute limit on telephone calls..and just to be really mean, she didn't have a cell, and she had to talk to him on the phone in the kitchen, so she had no privacy.
I'm guessing your parents have similar rules, so really, having a boyfriend wouldn't mean anything.
I know you're tired of hearing this, but enjoy being 13 and hanging out with your friends. There's so much time ahead of you for the whole boyfriend thing. Trust me, you're so much better off focusing on your studies, and learning about yourself. Don't get wrapped up in boys.
Most boys at 13 or 14 or even 19, really don't love you. They want to be cool and have a girlfriend. They'll lie to their friends about "how far" they got with you. Or, if you're foolish, you'll let them, and then they'll call you names and tell everyone you're trashy.
Enjoy not dealing with all of that. If this guy really does care about you, he'll still care about you in 3 years.
2007-03-06 21:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At thirteen, the world is so alive, as are your emotions, feelings, and hormones. You are going through so many changes at such a fast rate, that putting the boyfriend thing on the back burner and respecting your parents wishes is a good thing.
You have a lot of life to live and boys will always be there. This is a time in life to discover the things you like to do, to build strong bonds with your friends that aren't boys, and to start making plans for high school and who you want to be later on in life.
Your parents love you and are just trying to protect their little girl from the more painful and stressful parts of life. Honor them Sweetie! They aren't doing this to be mean, they just want their daughter to be capable and confident without having to depend on a boy to prove it. Life passes so quickly...enjoy your youth and worry about romantic relationships later on down life's path. You'll be glad you did! Annie
2007-03-06 20:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy am I glad I am not a teenager anymore!! I hate to sound like a cliche, but boys around your age are only after one thing if you know what I mean?? You should be having fun hanging out with your friends. You will have plenty of time for boys later!!
Have you tried talking to your parents about a compromise? Maybe you could have a boy over your house when your parents are home or go on group dates??
2007-03-06 20:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am here to help u. I am 12 3/4 and I have Had 14 bf's and i got away with it by telling my parents that's just the new way of people saying we like to hang out MORE INSTEAD OF JUST BEING FRIENDS. that word bf means u are best friends . Oh yea if u guys ever want to go out on a date, date then make sure u bring extra friends with u just in case as a cover. Ok dudet got to go good luck dudet ok bye got to go now.
2007-03-06 21:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jami W 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
parents do what they need to do for your best interest i know that's what you don't want to hear but i thanked god that my mom intervened during one of my so called bf and i was 16 they mean well just give yourself sometime i know you don't want to get in to trouble because you feel your ready but that's you all i can give is my opinion
2007-03-06 20:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by D.Gunn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are too young.
you will have plenty of time to be miserable with boys later on when you are older.
listen to your parents they love you and only want the best for you!!!
2007-03-06 20:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a BF?
Is it that important?
2007-03-06 20:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by Insanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take your boyfriend and let your parents meet him and if thay like him you'll have him
2007-03-06 20:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell them it's your social life and it's purely innocent...althought it might not be!
2007-03-06 20:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by Nice try 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋