My husbadn left me today. I was the one who wanted out, but since he wants out now, I want him back. He isn't coming home, waht can I say to him to fix it? I want to call him and say the perfect words, but I don't know what to say when I call, I just go silent and want to hear his voice?
I am pregnant. I want him to come home. He is upset I was looking through his phone and caught him talking to other girls.
2007-03-06 12:39:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The same thing happened to me and I was prego, I ended up getting a divorce and raising my baby alone and then about four months later I met my real soulmate. Maybe he isnt' what you need. If you want him back tho don't call or nothing let him think you don't want him and then he'll come back.
2007-03-06 12:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Iluvhim 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could answer you better, but as others have said marriage counseling is the way to go. I would look to your Church for help and they may have those services available.
I have a few questions for you to ponder. Why were you looking through his phone record? Why was he talking to other girls? Why did you want out? Why does he want out now? What do you expect of him as the father of your child? Only you know the answers and they will help you decide if you really should have him back or not.
I do believe that if you are both willing to openly discuss your issues and truly love each other you can redeem your marriage, but both must want it.
Please seek help and hopefully you have a family to cling to in this time of distress.
2007-03-06 12:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by crimthann69 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you are pregnant...and is it his child? He should know. If he does know and is still leaving.... I suggest you both seek counseling from a pastor. Its ususally free. You both need help. Ask him if he would go with you. You are young, and this is a very vulnerable time for you both. If this is your first child, sometimes the man feels he is loosing your love because you have someone else to love...your baby. He need to make a commitment to you as his wife.... for the sake of the baby. He is going to be a father. and you are going to be a mother. It is time for you both to grow up and face the new responsibility you created together. Childhood and irresponsibility are over.
2007-03-06 12:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its funny. We seem to run from what chases us ; but chase what eludes us. With that in mind DONT call him and watch........ He will call you I promise. If he doesnt hear from you he will start to wonder why you havent called or what you are doing know or if you are even thinking about him. When he does call act happy but keep it short and sweet, if he thinks your taking the brake up well he will wonder why and if its HE who is losing you, not the other way around. Thats how you get him back, but if he is talking to other girls he might not be worth keeping.
2007-03-06 12:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jim K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was he doing more than talking to other girls?
We are not of the same religion, but if you were the same religion as mine here is what I would say:
-God does not like divorce
-Pray for reconciliation if it is God's will
-Your children need two parents
-However - in the bible, if there is unfaithfulness, then it is ok to get divorced
-You need to protect yourself and your baby, is your husband good and kind to you, or does he cheat on you and or hurt you? If he is abusive at all you should call a women's shelter and get help for you and your baby.
I hope this helps. Please take care of yourself and your baby.
2007-03-06 12:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by redeemed 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You were looking through his phone? Why?
You had reasons to look, you wanted out. You're out.
Stay out. Otherwise, in a little while, you'll be looking through his phone again - and he'll still be talking to other girls... and you'll want out again...
Being pregnant is not a reason to keep him.
2007-03-06 12:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by awayforabit 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say you are your husbands second wife so you already share him with somebody, what's the problem with the girls on the phone then? What does the other wife say? You also said he kicked you and threw drinks on you ... sounds like a man with no respect for women ... get rid of the loser!
2007-03-06 12:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Goto him be sincerely sorry. Tell him how you feel open your mouth and talk. A person is great if he can forgive and a person is greatest when he can sincerely ask for forgiveness.
So please talk to him and meet him wait for him if he is not there. You need to make him understand that you really feel bad about what you did and how bad a decision was that and only after he left that you know how much you loved him. I would beleive even our baby would want us together.
rest all in your hands my friend on how you will talk but do talk and face to face. no phone conversation
2007-03-06 12:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Xtrax 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You really need to get together and talk to a marriage counselor. That is way to complicated, and we don't have nearly enough info for even a start. You need someone professional.
2007-03-06 12:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-07 10:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sunnydays_r_here_again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋